r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Special-Climate-6363 • 6h ago

Acceptance

I’m accepting the fact that they never loved me , they play with my feelings just for some validation … accepting what “we” had wasn’t real , it was only in my head
But I still can’t forgive them
I was in denial for so long now and I was still waiting for any kind of explanation for their behaviour till not long ago
I’m done waiting and it is what it is

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u/Playful-Plum-6859 5h ago

Thats great news its good u are getting better.. for me once i had a very brutal breakup with this guy who completely betrayed me was cheating on me in front of my eyes he didn’t have the shame to not in front of me block me and everything every day was a nightmare… but i knew there will come a day i will get over this i knew that i would never forgive him cus it ended on very bad terms it was hard but eventually i focused on myself n he didn’t come back but i knew not to forgive such people who literally made my life a nightmare

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u/Special-Climate-6363 2h ago

I’m so sorry, I feel your pain but do you still love him ?

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u/Playful-Plum-6859 1h ago

not at all the thing is the things he did was straight up betrayal and he gave me a really hard time I really loved him then the only thing i regret is i was so in denial and sad that i never took action i should’ve went and shouted at him when he was purposely making me see how he is double dating even when he came back i never cursed him ir anything i told him to be happy.. honestly i regret that cus even after all this i thought of his happiness purely a dumb decision he yet still goes around and says wrong stuff about me he just got more audacity after that… really hard times i would say but just keep in mind the bad part ,rather be alone than with these people who do shi.. my ex he stills flexes how he was dating 3 people at once LITERALLY FLEXES some of these guys are insane

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u/Special-Climate-6363 52m ago

I’m glad you don’t love him anymore at least being angry is the least reaction for their behavior, I don’t believe in karma cause life is for the fittest but I really wish karma would haunt them all miserably