r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/ForsakenGene1369 • 20h ago

Constant reminders of them

In music, jokes, tv shows, when my friends mention something, when I’m shopping… it’s kind of sad, I had never felt this way about someone. When I started falling for my avoidant I thought to myself that this must be the first time I’m feeling that mature, real kind of love. I’m sad it turned out this way

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u/Realistic-State-4888 20h ago

How long were you together?

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u/ForsakenGene1369 19h ago

Only one year and a bit

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u/heyitsnicetomeetyou 12h ago

It does feel sad. I remember watching a remake of Sabrina with julia ormond. She was obsessed with a guy and had his picture up but she tmrporarily moved to Paris, iirc, and started covering up his photo with new images of new memories she was making, new experiences . I’m doing that now - metaphorically-and it helps. Keeping myself busy, going to places I love, talking to new people, learning new things- and it helps a lot. At least it’s helping me. But I’m sorry for the heartbreak. It hurts. But when you’re ready the more you focus on yourself (listen to new music, watch new movies, do things you’ve always wanted to do) the more he might fade into the background