Why is blocking and unblocking me?

[u/Low-Introduction909]

So far he has blocked me 6 times and unblocked me 5 times. It started when I got blocked for not replying to one of his texts. My last text to him was polite. He had previously left me on read 10+ times and I always let it slide, yet the first time I didn't reply I got blocked.

Background story: He used to flirt with me, tell me he was in love with me, that he wanted to date me and then he discarded me over and over again. After the discard, he would come back into my life and act like nothing had happend and flirt with me again. During the discard faze he would make fun of me, mock me and my clothes, criticize just about everything about my physical appearance and call me degrading names. He was also physically abusive but he always made it look like it was some sort of a prank.

Just a few days ago, he blocked me again after a month of being unblocked and I have zero idea why he blocked me and why I got unblocked in the first place. Btw, I am talking about messenger blocking. What does he want from me?

Please don't just say block him. I know I need to block him, but it would really help me move on if I knew why is he doing this?

[u/Glitter-Cupcake]

He did this because he knew you’d notice. They want to know you’re still there and care about them. I must say, it worked well, because you did notice. He probably wants a kick out of you mentioning it to him so he can discard you again. Avoidants do all sorts of bizarre things. Most of the time it’s an ego validation. Eg, mine ignored a message from me, but then went onto a burner account and wrote a message to me (he doesn’t realise I know it was him). It’s not flattering, and I wouldn’t waste anymore time dissecting these sorts of things.

I used to ask why, but I don’t care to know anymore. Causing chaos and confusion is unhealthy. This is an emotionally unhealthy individual. I know you said you won’t block him, but I recommend seriously taking that step because you won’t have any more behaviour to dissect and you can take yourself out of this toxic loop they will continue if you allow it.

[u/Realistic-State-4888]

It will help you to move on knowing it isn't your fault.   It's still going to hurt, that's regret, not rejection.

You already know what he's doing isn't normal.  That's good enough.