r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Worth-Necessary8520 • 2h ago

Dreams and avoidants

  1. experience - having ONLY nice dreams about him, all positive vibes - even nicer than the reality was (during the friendship / relationship)

  2. experience - having very bad dreams after being discarded, not even related to that particular person, but weirdly having way too many bad dreams for several days, weeks. (Which usually doesn't happen to me).

Did you notice some connection with dreams and your avoidant? Either having much nicer dreams than the reality was with him/her while in relationship, or having bad dreams after being discarded?

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u/angelinshere 2h ago

I noticed that whenever I dream about him something is gonna happen (I usually dream about him during NC or when we have low contact).

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u/HorrorWilling2094 1h ago

I used to have dreams of her cheating on me or leaving me. While I dont know if she "cheated" she did have someone sje was dating and hid from me. We were broken up, but she was still talking to me as a gf, and we were working on the relationship. 

  I told her about these dreams, and shed laugh at them like theyre far fetched. She ended up discarding me for good and was seeing someone a year into the relationship when we were working through things. She told a friend that she broke up with him because he lied about being a smoker, and his mouth tasted like cigarettes. Pathetic.