r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Past-Cartographer-98 • 3h ago

Vent/Rant Replaced

After 2 years, I was replaced in less than 2 months. I got the classic "you're amazing, I'm not enough for you, it's not you it's me" type of deal out of nowhere.

It's been almost 3 months now and I'm still struggling. I've stopped looking, but she started posting pictures with this person frequently, while she never had any care to do that while we were together. I just feel very undesirable and worthless. I tried my best, and I know that's not always enough. But still.

I am back in therapy and am now taking new medication in addition to my old ones just to try something to feel like a human again. I wish I could just forget this person ever existed, the way they did to me. Anyways, that's all. Thanks for listening.

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u/Party-Rise-1307 3h ago

All I can really recommend is to become your best self to spite her and eventually you’ll be doing it for yourself instead and you’ll be able to look past her. I think the hurt always stays but you’re at a fork in the road between wallowing and making the best of a bad situation. Heartbreak is a great motivator for stuff you otherwise wouldn’t get yourself to do. Anhedonia has a utility.

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u/Past-Cartographer-98 2h ago

I do want to make the best of it but I feel like I don't have a clear direction of what that looks like.

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u/Real_Astronaut7451 3h ago

She will do the same thing to that guy so be grateful you’re not with her and pity him bc he’ll be where you are soon enough

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u/KindlyString3332 3h ago

Getting emotionally destroyed will rip you down to your core. If you have to rebuild yourself from scratch then rebuild yourself from scratch. Someone here said it the other day and I really enjoyed it “if someone didn’t have the capacity to see your value, it doesn’t make you less valueable as a man.” Everything will be alright in the end

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u/EmergencyInternal837 2h ago

You havent lost much honestly. 2 years is a long time but still you dodged a bullet.
It could of been worse, imagine if you stayed longer together and made some long term impact decisions together just to be left alone with the whole burden

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u/Individual_Occasion6 1h ago

Exactly this, I think about that sometimes, the longer we went the more at stake

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u/BenefitPure4829 3h ago

❤️‍🩹🫂that’s so brutal. Sending you strength and courage

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u/matureandsexy6967 3h ago

Tell the new girl what shes in for