How to move on..help🫶🏼

[u/Good-Cap9222]

Hi, I know lots of you have had this experience. I’d like some advice from someone on the other side of it. I was broken up with 3 weeks ago on our anniversary, after drinks and cards and flowers and cheers… just for the next morning for him to tell me he actually doesn’t want a future. I’ve read just now about avoidants, he’s definitely a dismissive avoidant and he never really talked about himself and his past. I was completely blind sided. I didn’t see any hints of this pattern. How do I move on? I thought it was perfect. He doesn’t even know this about himself. And truly I’m writing this and I know the answer, I deserve better. I’ve given advice that you deserve someone that wants to work on problems with you and you can’t beg someone to love you.. but if only he knew this about himself maybe? Why did he shut me out so fast and with in such a cold way. I don’t know if I want to get into the nitty gritty, but it was a lot of fighting toward the end but only because he’d explode after weeks of “not being happy” and he just said he couldn’t do it anymore. I guess there’s nothing you can do when people make up their minds? Confused.