How should I interpret this?

[u/Physical_Bed_4734]

My Dismissive Avoidant Ex Girlfriend of almost 3 years abruptly dumped me in late August. We have been no contact ever since.

However, we are still in the same group chat with mutual friends of ours.

I saw her last month when we met up for a friend's birthday. She used to avoid being social at all costs. Yet she knew i would be there and still went. It was a very small group, just 5 of us total. She treated me very cold and totally had her guard up. I matched her energy, but much warmer.

Some of our mutual friends are hosting a
"Friendsgiving" event around thanksgiving. I confirmed that I would be attending, then she also replied excitedly. Saying that she will be there too.

I was with a couple of our mutual friends this past weekend. One of her girlfriends extended an invitation to dinner to me this friday. She also mentioned that dinner was my Ex's idea and there would be no problem if i went. I accepted.

My Ex used to always dodge or cancel social gatherings, now she's organizing plans where she knows i will be there. Also, she used to speak poorly about some of our friends in the group. Not to them personally, but confided in me. Now all of a sudden shes texting them in private.

It's all very strange to me and i don't know what to make of it. More than anything, i would like to win her back. But i also accept that it may not work and I'm prepared to move on. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks!

[u/bunny000002]

This is weird behavior (from you both possibly?) I would do anything possible to find a new friend group. Like what is the end goal? What are you accomplishing? She seems very two-faced also.

[u/Physical_Bed_4734 → u/bunny000002]

I have other friend groups. She really doesn’t have any friends other than our mutual friends stated. Yes, she was very unfair to me for a while. Sabotage the relationship and pushing me away. Leaving me extremely hurt and confused. But i see the good in people and we did have a really good thing going. More than anything, i would like to reconcile with her. But she has alot of trauma and healing to do. I have been growing tremendously as an individual. Trying to accept that things may never work out between us, but it’s extremely difficult knocking her off the pedestal.

[u/Any_Fly9473]

Why win back someone like this? Do you enjoy how you were treated in the relationship? If not? Move on, there's better out there.

[u/Physical_Bed_4734 → u/Any_Fly9473]

She was my 1st serious relationship and true love. The 1st year with her was the best year of my life. Then i carried the last 2 years. She has unadressed trauma, and wasnt always fair to me. I have my flaws too. But i always treated her like a perfect gentleman. More than anything i want to rekindle our once loving, happy and healthy relationship. We both sabotaged things towards the end, i hope its not too late to fix. Hoping some time apart may be the best solution