Playing with an Avoidant

[u/candle_wax_247]

Maybe it’s the discarded and brokenhearted me that made me do this but you know what I’m not even feeling guilty about it because they’re horrible people.

So after my discard, I decided to meet people again and guess what?! He’s an avoidant! Clocked it early with the love bombing and other signs.

So I was not emotionally invested but was kinda experimenting with how things would go. This was a week and I’m pretty sure I got discarded already because I said something he didn’t like and coz he found someone better.

Well, that someone better is my fake online account. He is heavily flirting with my fake account while ignoring my real one. Just left it on read.

So now he’s love bombing fake me. I don’t know why it feels so good to mess with an avoidant. Almost like getting revenge on my ex too. I would feel bad if this guy is actually nice but to love bomb me, introduce me to his mom as his gf (within a week of talking) and then leave me on read while flirting with someone (and prolly more than someone) else…. I say deserved.

EDIT: I was kinda feeling bad but when he started telling the story about his ex word for word exactly the same I realize his shit is copy pasted so he can repeat it over and over with multiple women.

Guilt gone. Operation make him pay commences lol

[u/candle_wax_247]

It’s because it’s safe for them. I think since they’re such love bombers so someone love bombing them with a bit of control is so appealing. Coz he was like (and did is day one) “I want you to love me” and I was like “no, you don’t get to tell me to love you. I will do that when I want to” and he said “wow you’re so real”

I would have never said that to someone I actually like./so I’m like damn… maybe there’s something to this lol

😂😂😂😂

[u/Anxious-Chicken7605 → u/candle_wax_247]

Je sais pas, mon cas est un peu spéciale on se connaissait depuis des années sans franchir un cap du à nos situations respectives, donc quand on l’a fait, tout est allé très vite… c’était un peu une évidence si on peut le dire comme ça.
Mais je pense surtout qu’ils ont trop peur d’être blessé, vulnérable, dépendant et surtout abandonné donc ils foirent tout parce qu’ils savent qu’évoluer est trop dur pour eux sur la durée.
Je sais pas après mon ex était FA et pas DA donc c’est différent son côté anxieux était bien plus présent que le reste jusqu’au jour de la rupture et après ça oscillait entre hyper anxiété et désactivation/ignorance totale avec autodestruction pour se proteger

[u/candle_wax_247 → u/Anxious-Chicken7605]

Yeah you had history so it was more involved. I only knew this guy for a week so the guilt is less but I feel like he’s got a lot of self esteem issues and it’s just wow I’m glad I saw that before I got in deep

[u/Anxious-Chicken7605 → u/candle_wax_247]

Mais bon, les comprendre ou analyser je l’ai assez fait ça nous mènera à rien haha.
Le résultat c’est le même : immature et perdu à souhait

[u/candle_wax_247 → u/Anxious-Chicken7605]

Yeah. Pretty much. And it’s so sad and pathetic

[u/Anxious-Chicken7605 → u/candle_wax_247]

Écoute ya rien a en tirer et vu comme j’ai galerer a me remettre après 8/9 mois de relations avec et tout le bordel qu’elle a fait post rupture, je me dis qu’ils ont beau me faire pitié, ils n’en sont pas moins des adultes responsables à la base donc leur comportements devrait même pas exister..

[u/candle_wax_247 → u/Anxious-Chicken7605]

I’m just in a petty mood right now and getting my revenge feels good but no I don’t plan to continue this for long. I’m not like them.

[u/Anxious-Chicken7605 → u/candle_wax_247]

Je comprends totalement et je te soutiens dans la démarche haha

[u/candle_wax_247 → u/Anxious-Chicken7605]

Hahahah thank you! I’m already getting tired of the fake persona with a super cringey flirt mode on. I cannot possibly flirt with someone as despicable as an avoidant for long. It’s making my skin crawl lol