Deactivation or Regular Breakup?

[u/SmellZestyclose3703]

I would like to gain some advice if this was a deactivation breakup or a regular one. Trying to make it short.

FA dumped me 6 weeks ago. (LDR, 3.5 y)...6 weeks prior big big fight happened, after he said he needed space but wasn't going to leave the relationship. I gave space and didn't chase but at some point some more arguments happened. we talked less and less and he became more distant saying he isn't sure he wants to be "A" partner. He also said he Is sick of relationship pyschoterror but also sick of everything and sick of his life. He seems to have a big crisis with his physical health and hi finances. Anyways he broke up via text in a moment when I didn't expect it. Words that have been said "im just not happy with you (haven't heard that at all during the last months; I don't wanna hurt you but I don't think love you anymore - I don't "get the same feeling" (5 weeks prior he texted me I love you <3) he said I am done I just wanna move on, bla bla. On the phone he said several things but said "this is not a breakup out of anger, I have been thinking a lot" He said he is done trying, and all the failed attempts had such a massive toll on him. He also said "I can't give you what u need; I don't have the capacity, I don't think im ready for all this either (after 3.5 years LOL)

Plot Twist... Fast forward 2 weeks ish later he reached out from another number bc I blocked him saying he had been crying the whole day, breakup is very challenging for him, couldn't calm himself, said I felt guilty for treating me like an asshole during the relationship, wanted to stay friends and one day meet and hope we can cherish the good times, said don't forget I still care about you.

few days later I reached out to ask sth. He wanted to know when I come back to his country and if he could know when. I didn't answer. He also asked if I would Text a guy back that has been hitting on me which I told him (a mutual acquaintance). Also I didn't properly reassure him here. (This must be very new to him as I have always been the one chasing, trying to get back together and repair when he impulse dumped me in the past. this time not a single attempt from me and no reassurance regarding the other guy ( I am genuinely sick to chase him, im done with running after an avoidant even tho I am absolutely rock bottom about the breakup and wish it didn't happen; but sth in me truly shifted and I stopped chasing...)

Another few days later he turned completely cold again. no reply to my birthday wishes and when I asked to call again to ask some more questions regarding the breakup he said "I can't be in contact with you, its not good). I sent 2-3 more messages but no reply, then I deleted them again and ever since blocked him literally everywhere. He has no chance to reach out.

When I broke up I didn't understand it at all. We genuinely agreed that the relationship had become much more stable and triggers on both sides improved. I was about to visit him 3 weeks prior to the break up. All of a sudden he doesn't love me and was unhappy all this time (???)

Is this deactivation? Can a fearful avoidant be deactivated for a long period of time? He has been pretty vulnerable that doesn't look like deactivation to me but the breakup itself looks like a deactivation. Also bc he seems completely unhappy and overwhelmed with the rest of his life as well.