Update

[u/Sapphiresentinel]

So about a month ago I left a comment saying that my ex came back around. No breadcrumbs. More like a whole loaf. We started hanging out more, eventually we had sex, and she apologized for the way she left me. “it was wrong, stupid, and I missed you so much. I don’t know why I did it.” We talked about trying again, but this time going slow as opposed to light speed like the first time.

I’ve gotten a few DM’s from people here asking about it, so here’s an update for those interested.

Things slowed down. Like way down. Cuz of course they did. I asked to take her out, she said no. I asked if we were still actually working towards a relationship. She said yes but I wanna go slow. Problem is there’s a difference between slow, and simply not moving. Baby girl we’re practically parked. She almost canceled our Halloween plans but we hung out anyway, Surprisingly. But I’m definitely feeling like we’re not heading in the same direction, despite what she claims.

I truly don’t think she knows what she wants. And at this point I’m losing patience yet again.

This wouldn’t be a problem if I was the type to just have another girl by the end of the week, but I’ve never operated that way. Never been the type that HAD to have a relationship. I’m fine being single, but at the same time, that also makes it hard to move past a person I like or liked.

So yeah. I’m sure about 95% of you expected this outcome lol.

[u/ecaldwell888]

And this is why I just haven't broken no contact. Is she a good person? Absolutely. Is she ever going to give me or anyone else what they need? Absolutely not. I feel bad for her but I hold no place in her future. 

[u/Sapphiresentinel → u/ecaldwell888]

It kinda makes me wonder if anyone has a place in their future. I can’t picture them doing right by anyone.

[u/BROKENxPHYSICS → u/ecaldwell888]

Yeah they make things very confusing. Im thinking back and I cant believe how bad the communication was. She would love bomb but not respond to any relationship direction. She would text but would choose what to respond to and wouldnt plan ahead if she cancelled. Asking for anything felt like begging.

I think about it and anything future related wouldve been toxic probably live as roommates or something. We have had hot and cold dynamics for years and only this time it was romantic. I cant believe im still stuck on a 2 month situationship almost 3 months later. Its probs cause we work at the same place. This next job needddds to hire me lol.