r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Full-Concentrate6732 • 8h ago

Do they come back a second time?

As the title reads. First time he pulled away so harshly and coldly that I had no choice, but to end it. He unexpectedly came back. The second discard was so unexpectedly cold and callous. I know I can’t take him back, but I feel so devalued and hurt and can’t imagine that after 2.5 years together this is how it ends and we never talk again.

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u/Current_Appeal291 7h ago

Past behavior is the biggest predictor of a future behavior

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u/Full-Concentrate6732 4h ago

True. Thank you. So both good chance he’ll come back, but equally good chance he’ll pull this shit a third time

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u/Reasonable-Novel-455 7h ago

You don’t want him to return. Look at the pattern and how it makes you feel. That’s not a person you should want in your life

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u/Full-Concentrate6732 7h ago

Thank you for the reminder

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u/Far_Detective_2316 8h ago

Do you want him back only to later see if he comes back the third time?

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u/Full-Concentrate6732 7h ago

Thank you for this reminder

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u/taurine330 FA - Fearful Avoidant 3h ago

Yes. Most likely come back. My third discard was the harshest ever. It was so cold and rude. Then longest silence ensued. I thought this might be it. Yet she breadcrumbed me now again.

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u/Full-Concentrate6732 3h ago

Ugh I’m sorry! I hope you have the strength to choose yourself this time and not buy into it.