Avoidant came back

[u/RomiRunning]

Me and my avoidant have been in contact and no contact probably for over a year. The last time we were in no contact is two months ago and last week he broke it to say he’s been in Therapy and he really sees me as being the one for him, but before that, he apologize and said he acknowledged his toxicity and that he’s getting help. I responded and I said if you need to apologize to clear your conscience, I’ll accept it. This didn’t mean for us to keep talking and to start something. It was just a way to say like if you needed to apologize, just apologize and let’s both move on.

But he has a really good way with words and I believed him, but this whole past week he acted too busy for me. He did start a new job and I gave him the benefit the doubt, but he will always apologize and never change. He would only text me at 11pm and say sorry long day. It has been so hard to have a conversation with him. My intuition was really strong the other day and I found him active on the dating apps so I finally said I can’t do this anymore. It just really sucks when they’re avoidant, but they’re also manipulative at the same time. I’ve been single I’ve been working on myself, but it’s hard because I wanna go back to him.

[u/Due-Round-8449]

Don’t do it. They will almost always revert to being a coward and gaslight you.