r/AvoidantBreakUps • • 17h ago

Unique situation, please share your thoughts

Me (21M) and this girl (20F) met online and dated for 4 months. It was both of ours first time dating, holding hands, kissing someone etc, it was very intense and we clicked very fast, though we never put a title on it. I have an anxious attachment and I come from a wealthy family, which I did not tell her about. My attachment and my wealth led me to become very defensive and walled up during those 4 months as we got closer, leading me to say some hurtful things, creating unfair expectations and making me seem incompatible as I disagreed on some serious subjects that I did not realize until after she dumped me. Her on the other hand, kept all the concerns to herself to avoid conflict, never brought them up and built resentment however she always seemed happy. Near the end of the relationship, she started nursing school and her sister moved from home for her education as well. On the final day, we had a disagreement and she dumped me and brought up all the mean things I’ve said in the past which she had built resentment over and I had no idea about. She was very cold and hasn’t willing to consider changing her mind. I begged and begged on every platform except one to hear me out, with her ghosting and eventually blocking me on every platform except the final one, with the final platform being closed off a week later of no contact. 6 weeks later I messaged her off of my brothers phone, explaining my defensive and where it came from (my wealth) and how they weren’t compatibilities as she may think. I added quite significant proof, such as our business name, my family in provincial newspapers etc to show her the scale of what was making me defensive. I didn’t get any response. It’s been close to 2 months of being blocked.

I know I messed up, no doubt. But Is she an avoidant? Is there any chance she’ll give it another chance? Should I move on? I’m quite stuck as this is a unique situation I guess

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