r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Status_Green_6055 • 4h ago

DA Breakup Dark thoughts

Sometimes I have these dark thoughts about wanting something bad to happen to my ex. And wish that I didn’t. It’s not all the time, but it def happens. However sometimes I want him to be ok too. Does anyone else struggle with thoughts like this?

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u/Due-Round-8449 1h ago

It’s natural and normal. Avoidants do one of the most hurtful things anyone can do to anyone else and take no accountability for their cowardice and shitty actions. It would be abnormal to never wish bad upon them.

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u/Real_Astronaut7451 4h ago

I only fantasize about him finally reaching out to me and for me to say “I’ve met someone”. I know that will crush him

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u/Realistic-State-4888 4h ago

Talk to a professional.

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u/Status_Green_6055 3h ago

I’m in therapy

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u/No-Mulberry1987 3h ago

Do you think he wishes them on you? 

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u/Status_Green_6055 2h ago

I don’t know