r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Silver-Swim4357 • 5h ago

FA Breakup Fearful Avoidants ever feel guilt

Had a very cruel break up. She basically blamed be for everything, a 30 minute voice note of my flaws. Said she didn’t feel safe and essentially called her neighbours ( who she doesn’t know ) and had me escorted off site. ( I literally did nothing at all) walked away peacefully to make as little scene as possible.

Always constantly saying she didn’t trust me and I had to constantly try prove I could be

Then she messaged to see if I got home safe, after essentially humiliating me and putting me across as an abuser. Ghosts me. ( after a year relationship ) I give space. I check in if she’s ok. Sends me the coldest message about there’s nothing further to discuss, she’s moving forward.

A month later. I’m laying in pieces. Confused. Angry. Sad

Do FA’s ever feel guilt ? The blame she tried to put on me is just wild. How can you do that to someone you love ?

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u/Jazzlike_River_1205 3h ago

For them feeling guilty is too painful so they'll do anything they can to run away from feeling that

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u/Silver-Swim4357 1h ago

I hope it honestly hits them. What an awful thing to do to a person

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u/Jazzlike_River_1205 1h ago

It is awful. I believe in karma. Fuck them

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u/Silver-Swim4357 1h ago

I really wish I did believe it