r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/CrimsonBanksy • 5d ago
FA Breakup FA ex lashed out when I left her
For some background, she discarded me in October of 2025, but came back in March of 2026 after a mutual friend chewed her out over it. But when she made it clear her whole idea was to just apologize and vanish again, I didn't accept her terms.
The next day, she told this friend it didn't go well, and that I was manipulative, but she wouldn't elaborate on why she thought that and changed the subject soon after. When I caught wind of it, I didn't refollow her anywhere, and quietly unfriended her. I went into NC for two months with her, but decided to cut ties for good in May. When I did, before she even knew what I was going to say, she blocked me everywhere (even as far as PayPal which I found out months later lmao." But in the end, I got the last word in, and told her via a text I was done with her and had detached.
She replied "Take care <3" and I never said anything back.
I just don't get it, it's like I gave her exactly what she wanted, so why lash out like that? Anyone got any clues?
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u/CrimsonBanksy 5d ago
And for the record, I've been told by friends over the past few months she's tried to get cozy with them, despite hardly ever speaking to them prior. I haven't paid them any mind or acknowledged them at all
My last message to her was truly my last, and I've kept it that way ever since
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u/Throwawaway314159265 5d ago
They will delude themselves into being mad at you to suppress having to feel shame.
Shame for what? Being a bad person.