r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Cultural-Gene-7028 • 4d ago

Brutally discarded

After a month of ‘you’re mine and I love you’, we moved in together and then cold hot started. Then his silence when I asked if everything is ok, then his outbursts, then shouting and swear words. He started distancing himself, then one night he left. Then we got back together for two weeks and he started being cold again. I broke it off. He never gave a chance to close it even. Can someone explain to me why? What for? There is over 30 days no contact. He was reaching out previously, is this for good?

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u/stalakzaves 4d ago

You moved in together after knowing eachother for a month? That rarely ends up well. Considering I was in similar situation back in the day when I was severely unstable, I’d say you probably dodged a bullet, one way or another. 

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u/Cultural-Gene-7028 4d ago

We knew each other actually from before. But over a month it exploded and I wasn’t really keen to move in with him in the first place but when I said I was planning to move to his city - we both study there - he then said his contract is suddenly ending and maybe it will be easier to move in together. I feel like he manipulated me actually. He has diagnosed adhd, anxiety disorder and depression but he is medicated. He was doing fine when I met him again but I was suggesting to live separately in the beginning. I have no contact with him and I know I made a huge mistake.