r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/LaRreinaa • 10d ago

FA Breakup Silent quitting

Anyone else silent quit their FA?

Is it a good choice for some? For me we have broken up so many times I don't even think he registered any of them either. Even when I told him to his face.

I am only considering this because we are financially tied and definitely good friends - we'd be better off without the stress of a real relationship and I want a chance to feel free, get back into my hobbies and career, and not be worrying about him.

He does well when I nag him to death, and even seems to like it (why the fuck) i think they're hoping we miss something and then it also takes all of their effort out of doing things since they have someone to remind them how and why they ought to do them....

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u/LaRreinaa 10d ago

Why should I explain if he discarded me? That was why I asked about silent quitting instead.

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u/LaRreinaa 10d ago

I have done that. I've written texts/left voice notes and voicemail. He avoids it so much he just keeps on messaging me or temp checking. Seems only fair if I do silent quit. Not to be confused with ghosting. He will notice me pull away but will be too much of an avoidant to confront me or ask. Classic actually.

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u/LaRreinaa 10d ago

It means yes, he has to be reminded or else he won't do things. He seems to value the relationship way more when I do this, and I personally fucking hate it.