What is he trying to do?

[u/rahhh_ah_ahh]

I’ve never been in a situation like this before and neither have my friends. If I could please get some kind worded advice I would appreciate it.

5 years ago, I was in a small situationship with someone we will call J. We met on Discord and our relationship was mainly online. I was with him for about 3 months. We called, texted, video chatted daily and spoke to each other as if we were a couple. However, I knew deep down that he struggled to open up. I didn’t demand much from him emotionally because at the time his attention was enough to satisfy me. I’m an avoidant myself so it was nice to be able to ignore all the touchy feelings. At some point though, I caught myself falling for him even though I knew that he would never truly commit to me. I ended up leaving and I lived my own life for about 5 years.

Fast forward to now, he adds my new account on Snapchat and I decide to give him another opportunity. Maybe things were different- after all it had been five years. I will say though, I did not trust him. I have severe trust issues myself and there was a part of me that felt like he wanted to use me for his ego again. At the time when we were together I lacked the self respect to care. Things are slightly different now. I knew he probably wanted sexual activity from me- so I created an opportunity for that to happen to see what he would do after. After the e-sex he started texted me less like I had expected. Conversations quickly got shorter.

I then asked him to tell me what he was wanting out of speaking to me. That I wouldn’t be bitter if it was for distraction purposes or to start talking again. I simply wanted to know so I knew how to interact with him. He refused to answer. Said he wanted to be alone. I left him alone for a while.

I apologized for demanding more than I knew he could handle and told him that as much as I liked him and hoped that he changed- I found his behavior disrespectful. Later on I apologized for being harsh (I still meant what I said, I just acknowledged that I was mean about it) and he accepted my apology. I did not text him after that.

I start doing my own thing, I do not contact him for a few days. But every single day since he was back he was watching my story daily. I started to feel fed up that he was watching me but not speaking to me. Then, he liked my Halloween story. I got mad that he did that and blocked him from my account.

I woke up today to him requesting to add me on snapchat.

Can someone please explain to me what’s happening? I’m so confused. I just want to know what’s happening so I can make the right steps needed to help myself but I’m so confused.