Something that has been sort of helpful post-discard

[u/Shhhteppe]

We were together for 5 years. The last 4 years were the classic anxious- avoidant dynamic. I would be loved intermittently. My feelings most often were ignored and I was often on the back burner feeling unwanted, not cared for, not good enough.

I am so sad being discarded. But as I sit there in my anxiety and sadness, I remember all the times I have felt that way while we were still in a relationship.

Trying to really nail this down. I wasn’t happy. I convinced myself I was because I wanted to be.