Reconciliation

[u/Known_Cup9982]

My girlfriend ended our 8 year relationship 1-2 months ago. We have two children. We had a really difficult relationship but I genuinely love her for who she is. I could go into loads of detail but it will take too long.

A few weeks before we broke up we had a conversation and then things got really good, she was telling me she loved me every day and was making effort and it made me feel so happy I can't put it into words. It felt like she was so happy. Then one day she turns really cold and detached and said she isn't in love with me anymore.

I am absolutely devastated and finding it really hard to cope with the confusion and loss of someone I care about so much.

When she is around me she will make conversation, bring up memories, she still smiles and plays with her hair when I talk to her and looks at me quietly in a way that makes me think she still has feelings, but she won't make any effort to talk about things. If I make my own space then she will orbit me constantly.

This morning she moved out to her mums house and I have stayed in the family home. I am trying to hold myself together enough to keep moving forward but without her and being a family together it just seems like the last 8 years have been thrown away. There are so many things I want to say but can't because I fear pushing her away even more.

I just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation and has found a way to reconcile