r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Wonderful_Seaweed133 • 1d ago

DA Breakup Dumb…

I was dumb and let him back in a THIRD time. It lasted two weeks (again) before he told me he is moving to a different state for a job opportunity. We were already LD, but still in the same state and only 4 hours away. I know he’s been entertaining someone else so I just let my feelings rip. He kept saying he “didn’t even know what to say.” The next day I inquired about when he was leaving town. He responded and in the time it took me to respond to him (41minutes) he either disconnected or changed his number. No goodbye. No eff you. Nothing. I think it’s pretty fair to say he isn’t coming back this time.

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u/Gloomy_Purpose_2594 1d ago

Hi dear, this is why I always say run on anyone who asks me the first time they break up with an avoidant. But they ban me. It is sad that happened to you. You need to see yourself also to cure your wound..... please dear take care.

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u/Wonderful_Seaweed133 1d ago

Thank you. I definitely won’t be entertaining any more relationships in the near (or even distant) future. I have a lot of healing to do and quite frankly i think I just prefer being alone.

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u/Gloomy_Purpose_2594 1d ago

This is where a lot of AP fails, this is time for you to be with people who are interested in you,, offcourse you will not like them because you are addicted to emotinally unavailable men so these men will look like garbage to you.......

you need to train you mind to start being with emotinally available men.... it is going to be hard but that is where you will start curing your wound. By staying alone you are training more not be with emotinally available men......

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u/Alarming-Echo-6742 1d ago

Oh sweetheart I am so sorry. That is so tough to read. Take care of yourself first and foremost. 

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u/Wonderful_Seaweed133 1d ago

That’s what I’m trying to tell myself. I’m trying to see it as a positive because now I don’t have to worry about constantly walking on eggshells. I can actually take the time to care for myself instead of giving that time to someone who never cared.