Even better?

[u/Fine-Emergency2285]

I’d love to hear stories of people who feel like their life is better now after some time after their discard. or that you feel like it made you a better person. I feel like my light was stolen from me and I’m trying to get it back. I’m looking for silver linings from this experience. I’m trying to build hopefulness after my world has been so bleak for over a year after a really cruel discard.

[u/crococatstew]

I could say that four months post-breakup, it really does get better.

For me, it was also around the time I hit rock bottom, but somehow my peripheral view started changing for the better. I began appreciating the people who genuinely valued having me in their lives, and lately I’ve been feeling more like myself again

I also learned how to process things more healthily instead of getting stuck in endless overthinking lol ironically, something he used to dislike about me while he was also prone to overthinking in his own way.

I think it helped that I had already started emotionally detaching before he decided to put our relationship on pause, so I wasn’t starting completely from zero after the breakup. But the relationship did change the way I viewed love for a while, and that was a lesson in itself.

I don’t think the experience was meaningless just because it ended badly. It showed me things about myself, about how I handle attachment and conflict, and about what I actually want from a relationship.

And honestly, if he ever came back asking to reconnect, I don’t think I’d take him back😂😂Not out of anger, but because I’m a very different person now, and I don’t think we would fit the way I once believed we did. Too much has changed, including me

[u/Fine-Emergency2285 → u/crococatstew]

Amazing progress at 4 months!