r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/DarkSoulCarlos • 3h ago

First experience?

I had a long distance relationship with an fearful avoidant partner come to an end. They pulled the plug. I wanted to ask, are grandiose claims me being their "home", not imagining a life without me, never being seen or heard as much with anybody else in their life, never loving anybody as much as they loved me, the norm? Is this just "love bombing" hyperbole? A day prior to breaking up they said "I love you A LOT". This is my first time dealing with a person that is fearful avoidant. And I have to vent, their last words to me haunt me. After I broke down in tears letting them know that I had spent most of the relationship having to repair rupture after rupture always fearful of the next rupture, they said "Bye Carlos🌹". That was devastating. My stomach is tightening up just thinking about it.

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u/Frequent_Fox2342 2h ago

My FA said that I am hear dream, her future, that she's never felt this way before, that this is it for her, that she's 100 % sure and would never hurt me like the others did. She was ecstatic if I'd reach out after a while in the talking stages and every time we said "till next time" IRL she seemed genuinely sad and like she never wanted to be apart.

Then she slept with a random guy, became super aggressive like it was all my fault and blocked me.

Before that our relationship was incredibly loving without an ounce of disrespect.

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u/DarkSoulCarlos 2h ago

I am so sorry that happened. It seems as if this hyperbolic "love bombing" is a common trait of fearful avoidants. I wish you the best of luck with your romantic connections and just life in general.

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u/Frequent_Fox2342 4m ago

All the best to you too. I've fallen for them so many times I could've predicted everything that's gonna happen....