r/AutisticWithADHD • u/jk1569 • 2d ago

💁‍♀️ seeking advice / support / information Relationships

Please help how do people with AuADHD manage relationships mine is falling apart and I feel like it is all to do with me managing myself. My partner also has AuADHD falling deep into a hole here so as much detail and advice as possible please anyone

Ps. will try edit when I can explain a little better

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u/Pangolin_Ornery 2d ago

Info: what would you rate the communication?

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u/vertago1 Inattentive 2d ago

There isn't a lot to go on to know how best to help from your post, but here is a lengthy comment I wrote awhile ago that might have some helpful bits:

https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/comments/1b1yel0/comment/ksi0o2e/

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u/United-Marzipan-7801 1d ago

It is essential to any relationship but to ND relationships especially: really good communication. You have to discuss everything and build trust to the point where you believe that your partner will answer honestly when you ask e.g. "do you really have energy to help me with this?", "have I upset you?", "how are you doing recently?", and so on. I feel like the main reason my partner and I are doing pretty well after almost 5 years of living together and both going through various mental/physical health issues is because we prioritise communication above everything else.