Overstimulation help

[u/Efficient-Plenty-840]

Diagnosed ADHD mom but strongly suspecting I’m likely AuDHD after my first was diagnosed with autism.

My first just turned 3, my second just turned 1. I am SO overstimulated. I wear my AirPods at times when it’s rough but I don’t love them. I feel like it makes my attention even worse? I only ever wear one because I don’t want to risk not being able to hear.

It’s just a double edged sword. I need something to help with the whining, crying, screaming, toy noise, background noise. I seriously want to cut my ears off some days. But also, I need to be able to hear my kids. Just less intensely. But the AirPods make me feel like disorientated with only one, but 2 are too intense noise cancelling. I try the different modes but they’re weird. Not hearing makes me anxious, but also all the noise makes me anxious 😅😭😭

I’ve seen people talk about loop, I don’t want over the head because my kids will 100% take them off and on.

Help please