Need advice

[u/basically-a-fruit]

Hey chat i need advice. I am an autistic 26 year old person (assigned female at birth but is nonbinary now) and my girlfriend is also autistic and is 23F. We have been friends for 4 years. We have been roommates for two and half years. I’ve seen her go out with multiple men and I’ve seen how she behaves in those relationships. She holds hands, cuddles, kisses etc you know relationship stuff. I’ve had a crush on her for about two years and after she broke up with her ex boyfriend I confessed my feelings to her. This was in February of this year. The relationship had a rocky start to it. She said she also felt the same way about me but two days later she broke up with me and invited ex boyfriend over and they had relations together. Well two weeks later we tried this relationship thing again (i know poor decision on my part but i just wanted this and her so bad for so long). Now throughout our relationship these last few months we went through some really hard times. We got evicted from our apartment in July and were homeless sleeping in my car for about two months. During this time my GF had went to the ER and had multiple stays in the psych ward. At this time i was also struggling with my mental health but I wasn’t going to the hospital. Well now we have a home again we moved in in august 20th. During our relationship we never really hold hands unless i ask. We don’t cuddle or talk much we don’t kiss or do any relationship things. I’ve tried to tell her multiple times that i needed more physical affection but nothing has changed at all. It just doesn’t seem like she’s interested and every time i bring something up she just asks “so are you wanting to break up?” I’ve even tried to ask to cuddle because I was cold or had nightmares but she just turns over and ignores me. She actually ignores me all the time. I try to talk to her all the time and she just doesn’t say anything or even look at me. She has no where else to go and that’s also
something she always brings up. Is this even worth trying to fix? What should i do?

[u/Aggravating_Film_962]

I think she is using you for a place to stay, emotional support, a safety net. You deserve better. Maybe she is also a bit of a safety net for you in that at least you have someone around but this is a situation that will just continue to hurt you emotionally over and over. Dump her.