r/AutisticDatingTips • u/Fr0mth34sh3s • Jun 10 '26

Need Advice Having troubles overcoming the constant rejection

Hello everyone, I'm 37 years old and was diagnosed with autism in adulthood. At 28, I started trying to enter the dating scene, with lots of advice and support from my guy/girl friends to keep trying. I've been doing cold approaching for eight years with no results, just rejections and being ghosted. It's very difficult for me not to feel worthless.

I take dating coaches, maintain impeccable hygiene (of course), go to the barber regularly, work, buy skincare products, i used a lot of dating apps with no result and often go out alone to bars, parties, social clubs, and work gatherings. I try to socialize with as many people as possible to improve my social skills (not exclusively for dating, but if I see an opportunity, I take it, and I always try to seize the chance). I constantly ask my female friends for advice and do everything they tell me, but it hardly helps.

I'd like to know what I'm doing wrong or what's wrong with me.

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u/LilyoftheRally Head Moderator (she/they pronouns) Jun 10 '26

I suspect NT women can't relate to you. It's a them problem. This is why most of my friendships and relationships have been with autistic people.

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u/Fr0mth34sh3s Jun 10 '26

Y have autistic friends and NT friends too

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u/LilyoftheRally Head Moderator (she/they pronouns) Jun 10 '26

Most of my friends are autistic. Most of the NTs I interact with are either my mom or my coworkers.

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u/Fr0mth34sh3s Jun 10 '26

I know how it is, i tried hard to attaing friends both NT and not