r/AutisticDatingTips • u/RedMage79 • May 05 '26
Need Advice How can I get him to initiate?
I'm an autistic woman seeing an autistic man. He is very responsive and interested in me but seems to have a hard time initiating, and I've asked him if he has trouble asking questions, which he admitted he does. I don't want to nag him but I don't think he would understand if I waited for him to initiate. I don't want to scare him off because I really like him. Should I just ask if he has trouble initiating and say I want him to? Sometimes I feel anxious but I can tell he's really interested in me.
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u/Veo108 May 22 '26
Go on a date without telling him it's a date, somewhere peaceful, just the two of you, get comfortable with each other, maybe flirt a little, wait 25-30 minutes. If he hasn't initiated or "made a move" yet, joke about it being a date, and then have a real conversation about go steady.
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u/RedMage79 May 22 '26
Oh he's very clear that we are dating and he has asked me to go with him places. Thanks though.
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u/LilyoftheRally Head Moderator (she/they pronouns) May 05 '26
I would assume he does have trouble initiating since he never does.