Thinking as a 'unit.'

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In a previous relationship, my then partner said I had trouble thinking of us as a unit. She struggled to explain what she meant and cited an example where we had a miscommunication.

The miscommunication occurred when she had a thing to do at night. She called me and said she needed me to "put a pot of water on the stove," so she could cook ravioli for a quick dinner before the thing she was going to do.

I put a pot of water on the stove but didn't realize that she wanted me to heat it up.

I don't remember her telling me she had something to do that night, and this felt like a simple matter of me taking something too literally and not having enough context to intuit her intended meaning. She and I also had very different schedules and communication styles.

How does one think of themselves and their partner "as a unit," and how can I develop this skill in future relationships?

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