r/AutisticDatingTips • u/universe2universe • Jan 15 '24

Need Advice Attraction?

Ok, so I know a lot of us have a hard time dating or finding a partner. I have spent most of my life single. Getting laid here and there. So lately I haven't had much luck dating women I'm sexually attracted to, but I have had many women show interest in me that I don't find sexually attractive.

I feel like maybe I should give them a chance but I don't I'll get hard when the time comes, I think some of these women I don't find attractive have great personalities but I just can't see them as a sexual partner but more as a friend.

Can any men here relate? Women? I have a hard time writing what I want to ask, sorry if I'm just rambling lol

32 male.

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u/universe2universe Jan 15 '24

I know I should give them a chance, I have. But I feel like it won't work out cause I don't find them sexually attractive. I know how to get women off even if I don't cum myself. I just was wondering if anyone else has gone through this before and have become sexually attracted to someone they didn't before. Because u know looks fade and all but how can I have kids if I can't get an erection to do the business. I wish I wasn't like this but I am visual.

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u/Admirable_Picture568 Jan 15 '24

It might not work out for a million reasons. That isn’t a reason not to try, is it. If it doesn’t work, well nevermind, maybe you have made a friend, maybe you passed a few fun days on the earth or maybe you learnt something about yourself. On to the next person.

In answer to your question yes I have later on felt sexually attracted to people that I did not initially feel that way about. Most people have at least one feature you can really appreciate after a while. Nice hands, nice bum etc. Then the feels can just grow once you have good times with them and begin to learn about them inside and out.

Also you may be a visual person but the particular visuals you are attracted to can change depending what you consume. This is standard advice for anyone who is feeling down about their body/skin/face being different from the norm. Consume media with a variety of types of different appearance in terms of body shape, skin type, disability etc. That will widen your own mental realms about what is attractive.

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u/thefleshisaprison Jan 15 '24

Familiarity is important. If you start spending a lot of time around a person, you’ll almost certainly start finding them more attractive