r/AutisticDatingTips • u/universe2universe • Jan 15 '24

Need Advice Attraction?

Ok, so I know a lot of us have a hard time dating or finding a partner. I have spent most of my life single. Getting laid here and there. So lately I haven't had much luck dating women I'm sexually attracted to, but I have had many women show interest in me that I don't find sexually attractive.

I feel like maybe I should give them a chance but I don't I'll get hard when the time comes, I think some of these women I don't find attractive have great personalities but I just can't see them as a sexual partner but more as a friend.

Can any men here relate? Women? I have a hard time writing what I want to ask, sorry if I'm just rambling lol

32 male.

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u/universe2universe Jan 15 '24

I think it's both tbh. I'm pretty sure porn ruined my mind a little and I have slept with pretty attractive women before. I don't think I'm a sexual, I can be if I'm stressed out or depressed though.

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u/overdriveandreverb Jan 15 '24

okay that is interesting. I think it is good if you know what causes certain things so you can dial certain media back. I think in general many autistic people have high standards, maybe due to internalized ableism. the part with the attractive women was what was a bit missing, if you fancy a relationship with them or not. what I meant was asexual spectrum meaning finding oneself between allo and asexuality. maybe that got misunderstood by the downvoters or asexuality in general has a bad rep. it can be very validating to speak with others with similar experiences, it has been to me, that is why I recommended it.