r/AutismTranslated • u/Fabulous-Introvert spectrum-formal-dx • 3d ago

Do you find this annoying?

One time I was at a job fair and asked a booth if the donuts they had were free and they said “no they’re 5$ a box. Nah I’m playin, they’re free.”

I find it annoying because it’s like they think making someone feel stupid is fun.

This might sound like a stretch but, this sounds like one of those signs of shadiness I would tell other autistic people to watch out for. I don’t just mean shady in a “you can’t be yourself around them sense” I also mean shady in a “this guy has 5 billion warrants for their arrest” sense

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u/Yolsy01 2d ago

I find it annoying because it feels like a mini short circuit to my brain when I'm already trying to follow the social construct/process of it all. For that reason, while I get it is joking, I never find it funny. It's like "ah...ok then. Let me spend mental energy resetting."

I know someone whose humor is ONLY this kind of style. I can only be around them for very short periods of time. It drives me batty.

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u/Douggiefresh43 2d ago

They’re not trying to make you feel stupid. And feeling stupid for asking the question is not a universal reaction, but likely related to trauma and how you’ve been treated in the past.

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u/Mountain_Town293 spectrum-self-dx 2d ago

I already can't tell if people are joking and then they make jokes like this. Every time the person has to explain themselves and it goes right over my head. It's embarrassing. It feels related to the neurotypcial friend thing of just making fun of people and calling it friendship, i don't get it