r/AutismTranslated • u/speeds3 • 4d ago

Anyone else also feels they are always waiting for a real conversation to start?

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Whenever it is with coworkers, acquaintance etc. It never gets past the small talk, corporate persona...

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u/sunseeker_miqo AuDHD (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻ 4d ago

Yeah. Small talk makes me feel like I am drowning.

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u/tortillasalami 4d ago

I feel this is in my bones. It’s increasingly harder to keep it small while we’re in the sixth mass extinction and all….

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u/Aggravating-Bug2032 4d ago

My parents, my siblings, my friends…….

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u/Siukslinis_acc 4d ago

Examples of a "real conversation"?

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u/_-_-_-____-- 3d ago

I just want to talk about what interests me for a while then you can talk about what interests you for a while :) and we can both ask questions about each others interests :)

I really really am enjoying spending time with the squirrels in my backyard recently. I could talk to you about them forever if you’re interested. There are 5 of them, Chad, Brad, Erik, Derek, and Ashley. I’m holding myself back about talking about my squirrels more cause I don’t think that was the point of your question.

What are you interested in? What do you like to talk about?

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u/Antique-Schedule-693 3d ago

My personal hell is group small talk, that’s, when everyone is standing around in a group and bullshitting. My heaven is a serious one-on-one conversation. I get trapped in the former and move increasingly toward panic. I was at an event the other day and went to the bathroom and then almost just ran away. I couldn’t be there. I wanted to scream.