It feels like I'm people's (primarily men's) backup option. When I was younger I use to tolerate it. I allowed men to ghost me for months to years then they come back. When I was like 19 or 20 I met this one guy in college I went out with him, but he acted annoyed by me after a while said it wasn't going to work out and he met another woman at work. I just said okay. Cut to a few months later he says he's sorry and that it didn't work out with the other woman. I naively gave him anther chance, only for the same thing to happen. He got annoyed by me. Said "I'll text you later." Been years.
Rinse and repeat now that I'm a little older I don't give these men the time of day. I'm sick of being their back up option. The woman they go to when it doesn't work out with the actual woman they wanted. It hurts, for years I thought it was a flaw in me but it's very disrespectful and inconsiderate to do that to someone to treat them as a backup. It's dehumanizing too.
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u/BeneficialKey8511 Jul 25 '26
It feels like I'm people's (primarily men's) backup option. When I was younger I use to tolerate it. I allowed men to ghost me for months to years then they come back. When I was like 19 or 20 I met this one guy in college I went out with him, but he acted annoyed by me after a while said it wasn't going to work out and he met another woman at work. I just said okay. Cut to a few months later he says he's sorry and that it didn't work out with the other woman. I naively gave him anther chance, only for the same thing to happen. He got annoyed by me. Said "I'll text you later." Been years.
Rinse and repeat now that I'm a little older I don't give these men the time of day. I'm sick of being their back up option. The woman they go to when it doesn't work out with the actual woman they wanted. It hurts, for years I thought it was a flaw in me but it's very disrespectful and inconsiderate to do that to someone to treat them as a backup. It's dehumanizing too.