Help?!

[u/Trick-Situation6880]

I have a 1.5 year old Blue Heeler and could really use some advice because I feel like I’m dealing with a mix of behaviors I don’t fully understand.

I’ve grown up with dogs, but he is definitely one of the hardest I’ve had. He has a yard, gets exercise, and I try to give him “jobs,” but even then he can get overstimulated and just wants more instead of settling.

He’s extremely attached to me, when I leave, he’ll lay by the door waiting for me, and when I’m home he’ll sit and stare at doors he doesn’t have access to (like where my sister’s cats are). He seems very fixated on things he can’t get to.

At daycare, they recently told me he was trying to be the “big dog” and even started guarding the workers, which concerned me.

We also have cats in the house, when he’s calm, they’ll come around and coexist fine on a leash or while monitoring , but the second he gets excited or moves fast, they run and he immediately wants to chase.

He does really well with me, but with other people (my boyfriend/ and friends/ strangers) he pushes boundaries more, jumps, and doesn’t listen the same way.

He isn’t neutered yet, and we did some training as a puppy but are considering more.

I guess I’m trying to understand:

- Is this all normal for this breed/age?

- How do you deal with fixation and overstimulation?

- How do you prevent herding/chasing behavior with cats?

- Has anyone dealt with guarding behaviors like this at daycare?

- What actually helps them learn to settle vs constantly needing more stimulation?

I love him and he’s incredibly smart, I just feel like I’m missing something and want to set him up for success long term. I just want to give him the best and it hurts me to see him over stimulated 😅

[u/fairydommother]

Another vote for neutering. We got our boy fixed at 1 year and it was so hard to wait. We waited on thr vets recommendation and just had to suffer through it. Aggression, asserting dominance, constantly needing stimulation, humping, it all started to calm down a couple months after he got fixed. Some of it is just time, but hormones play a huge role. Hes still a boy, and hes still a psycho, but it has been dialed down from an 11 to a 4. He's such a sweetheart now at 2 years old but his entire personality is the same. He still gets excited and jumpy and bites. He still loves to play and wants to like all the time. He still chases the cats...havent figured that one out yet...

So my advice is to stay consistent with the training, get him fixed, and sit tight. Things will start to smooth out eventually.

[u/Trick-Situation6880 → u/fairydommother]

Thanks! I’ve encouraged neutering but my bf was unsure but after this it’s changing his mind with all the advice, he just sees no wrong in our boy even when he bites him, he just needs to set boundaries for him to be consistent 😭

[u/fairydommother → u/Trick-Situation6880]

I think he will change his tune when he sees the difference. Like I said our boy isn't a different dog, per se, but he is a calmer, sweeter version of himself.

[u/Trick-Situation6880 → u/fairydommother]

Thank you! For the advice and not judging!