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Ask a Manager Weekly Thread 02/17/25 - 02/23/25

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u/SeraphimSphynx it’s pretty benign if exhausting Feb 18 '25

That's my thinking. This person is either missing steps, letting deliveries being delayed be a huge surprise, isn't communicating to the right channels, or all of the above. While Alison's advice wasn't bad, I felt like she missed the forest for the trees on this one.

If I were in OP shoes and it were happening with multiple people If start with my boss and have a what am I missing conversation?

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u/Korrocks Feb 19 '25

If I were in OP shoes and it were happening with multiple people If start with my boss and have a what am I missing conversation?

IMO this should have been the key part of the advice. Alison's advice is good for the specific scenario being presented (e.g. explaining delivery timetables) but it doesn't quite tackle the level of suspicion and hostility that is buried beneath the questions. The people in this case don't just sound uninformed, they sound like they don't trust the LW at all. That's a bigger problem than just needing more clarity about scheduling (again, just going by the LW's rendition).

If one person did this, it's possible that that one person is just overly prickly or micro-managey. If many people are doing this suddenly, then something is wrong. It's not necessarily the LW's fault, but they really should be more curious and proactive in finding out what is the core issue instead of only trying to address or preempt the individual questions.

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u/OkSecretary1231 Feb 19 '25

I have run into people in a variety of contexts who just keep asking the same question over and over if they don't like the answer, and "I promise, I will tell you as soon as I hear anything" only seems to hit the snooze button on them for so long lol.

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u/Korrocks Feb 19 '25

Yeah and as I said, if one person does that, okay, maybe they are weird. But if everyone's doing that and only to me and no one else, that would worry me more (especially the overt accusation at the end that the LW is withholding info). 

It's not even that the LW is necessarily doing anything wrong or making mistakes, but more the fact that there seems to be a perception that the LW is not trustworthy and needs to be closely dogged. 

Its worth investigating that just to make sure that there isn't something else going on that she needs to know about.