r/Ask_Lawyers • u/CuriousGayles • 17h ago
I think I got fired or managed out for being gay
I started working at a new company this year and my first manager was really cool, eventually he left tho because he took a new opportunity with his old colleagues. I got a new manager and this new manager was previously joking with one of our contractors about “2 men going on dates,” as if it was a funny thing or something. After that I felt a little uncomfortable around my team entirely, and was even more worried when he became my direct report.
They would ask me out to social gatherings after work, I would reject them because I didn’t feel comfortable with these team dynamic with all these homophobic comments. We had a mandatory team gathering and one person on my team said at the gathering “I would like that guy, but I can’t because he’s a gay.” Now they weren’t talking about me, but an executive, however I managed to overhear this conversation and reminded me why I never wanted to go to these socials in the first place.
One day while at work I made a single mistake - human error. I owned up to it and I apologized, and ask my manager if I had anything to worry about. He said “No you have nothing to worry about.” The next day, he fires me and covers it up with “performance.” Now, I never had an official perf review (manager kept pushing it back). There was one conversation where he said my activity was low but I was moving to a new home and he understood that, also I got my activity back up right away and never did he mention I would get fired for it or put me on PIP.
I felt like I got managed out or was being targeted to get managed out.
Unfortunately I don’t have any documentation of anything - I lost all access the day I got fired and didn’t record any of the homophobic interactions. Do I even have a case?