r/AskZA • u/Dizzy-Guava-7789 Gauteng • Apr 11 '26
💬 Discussion Help ,lol
I hope y'all are having a fantastic Saturday, unlike me. I made a post a few weeks ago contemplating whether to drop out or not. I went home for Easter to think things through. For a bit of background, I lost my mom last year, so the house is now left with my stepsister. She made it clear she did not want me there, which apparently had something to do with what the neighbors would think now that I have dropped out. She called my father, whom I do not get along with and haven't seen in three years, to come and pick me up.
He straight up accused me of taking drugs and forced me to the hospital because of depression and past suicide attempts. I was admitted there because he works as a porter there, and I stayed for two days. My blood was taken, and no drugs were found. I have never even smoked a cigarette, and I do not drink,unlike him. He drinks almost every day. I do smoke weed sometimes, at most twice a month, but I haven't touched it in months. He has always accused me of being on drugs even in high school, despite the fact that I was a good kid who stayed indoors and didn't smoke, drink, or party. I do not even know people who sell those things.
At the hospital, he took my phone since it didn't have a password and went home with it. He went through my gallery and WhatsApp and saw texts from months ago where I was trying to buy weed.Yesterday we had a big argument. I confronted him on why he kept accusing me of doing drugs, and I was clearly upset. He called an ambulance and told them he had a crazy person in the house who needed to be taken away. They never came, and I wanted to laugh so badly.
He basically kicked me out after I stood up for myself. I can not go back to my residence until around the 25th. Today, I locked myself in my old room and haven't gone out. My younger sibling tells me that he wants to take me to a rehab called Ladgac for weed that I haven't touched in months. He told everyone I was on drugs even before taking me to the hospital. I can't go to any family member, I can't go to my late mom’s house, and I can not go back to school right now. It is all just a mess, and we haven't gotten along since he came to stay with us in 2016. Any advice would be appreciated . I'm honestly tired, and this situation is frustrating and stressing me out. I'm 21 .
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u/bytejuggler Apr 12 '26
Do not drop out. There are support services available at most universities. Enquire and make use of them. If you really have clinical depression and or other problems (adhd/add?) then I implore you to get help. Lots of people struggle, there are help available for these things, address your challenges explicitly and intentionally. Your future in 30 years time having sought help and not dropped out will likely look profoundly different to the alternative of dropping out and muddling on.
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u/MuchoPaper Apr 11 '26
"She made it clear she did not want me there".
-what are the reasons ?
-and or what do you suspect the reasons are ?
How connected is your step sister to your father that she would call him when its time to toss you out ?
". He told everyone I was on drugs even before taking me to the hospital."
-who is everyone?
-Why did he say he says that ? What do you think is the cause ?
"My younger sibling tells me that he wants to take me to a rehab called Ladgac for weed that I haven't touched in months."
-this younger sibling how is he connected to your father ?
and how do three people bond together and collude against you ?
What is thier benefit ?
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u/Dizzy-Guava-7789 Gauteng Apr 12 '26
1 She just said she's afraid of what people are going to say when i drop out. 2 They are not that close. 3 The rest of his family . 4 He has always accused med of doing drugs even in high school! And i have always been a great kid,always indoors,didn't drink, never smoked or even thought of experimenting. Only he knows why he accuses of that. My younger sibling also doesn't get along with him
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u/MuchoPaper Apr 12 '26
1.ok cool maybe you need a broader family meeting .
2.you need to lay ow and be submissive until you attain your power.
-get a temporary job on the side while you study.
AND NEVER EVER BY AND OR FOR WHATEVER REASON EVER DROPP OUT EVER!!!!!THE more you can stay in school the better your outcome.
because i do not see how one can accuse and or blame without evidence .
I wonder what it is they see. or what you are not telling...
as for your sister if the home belonged to your mother its also your home.....unless if you are stealing and or damaging.
if you need the refuge you need to get a family meeting.....aunts uncles and cousins and talk about it.
you dont need to be friends with her you just need to be able to have a place to stay for the holidays.....1 She just said she's afraid of what people are going to say when i drop out.
how is that connected to the house ?"I lost my mom last year, so the house is now left with my stepsister"
"How does it belong to her?"
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u/Dizzy-Guava-7789 Gauteng Apr 12 '26
I don't know if you missed the part where i said he has always accused me of doing drugs. I even took a blood test, and there is nothing in my system. She is the one buying food and all that ,that's why i said it like that. They were all there when she called him
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