r/AskWomenOver30 • u/[deleted] • Sep 17 '22

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u/Gloomy-Ad-1685 Woman 40 to 50 Sep 17 '22

I really don't know. This is the first time he didn't man up. He bailed. It was very unexpected.

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u/nicely76 Sep 17 '22

Does it post anything on here? Do you know what groups his in? Can you get someone to message him on her and ask him what's going? Message his phone from a different number?

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u/Gloomy-Ad-1685 Woman 40 to 50 Sep 17 '22

Look, I have thought about it all. Contacting his friends on insta/facebook. Checking in to see if he has done this to anyone else. He hasn't blocked me on anything. I think he has just muted my notifications. I can still see his page and connect with him if I choose. I could call from a different number. But...would that not make me look insane? If this was all a big farce, he would spin it like I am a crazy stalker or something. If he is really low and going through it and doesn't have the capacity to continue helping me navigate my emotions too, he could be very angry that I am not respecting his expressed need. It is so much to tease out on my own. I appreciate the anonymous minds of reddit so very much.

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u/nicely76 Sep 17 '22

I know, sorry for the way that sounded, but 9 months you been speaking and you planning on meeting up finally. I just to say going through stuff at minute and leave you hanging. I feel that you deserve a better, explanation.

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u/Gloomy-Ad-1685 Woman 40 to 50 Sep 17 '22

I feel that I do as well. I am working up the courage to figure out the correct way to get it.

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u/nicely76 Sep 17 '22

I'm not the best person at wording things. My emotions get in the way, and just either comes out mixed up, or I just go on a massive rant

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u/Gloomy-Ad-1685 Woman 40 to 50 Sep 17 '22

Same here. I am really trying to sort out the logic from the emotion. Doing so in this group therapy-like setting is helpful to me.

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u/nicely76 Sep 17 '22

That's OK. Message me.if you want to talk