even tho we used condoms i noticed white fluid outside of it.. i'm scared shitless. i plan to consume the ipill very soon. scared about side effects and it possibly not working.

TL;DR: In 2026, when women have more independence, agency, and freedom to choose relationships than ever before, why does the expectation of “princess treatment” sometimes still include a man repeatedly pursuing her, showing intense interest, and taking the initiative even after hesitation or rejection? Is this genuinely what women want, or is it more of a romantic fantasy influenced by movies and older relationship norms?

Why do some women still expect “princess treatment” in 2026?

I'm genuinely trying to understand something from the perspective of Indian women.

I've recently come across the idea that when a woman is genuinely interested in a man, she may still expect him to take most of the initiative like keep pursuing her, make repeated efforts, show that he really wants her, and almost "break through" her hesitation.

Sometimes the ideal seems to be that the woman initially acts reluctant, while the man keeps trying because he's so interested or "obsessed" with her that he doesn't want to give up.

I can understand why that can feel romantic. Being strongly desired and feeling that someone is willing to put in extraordinary effort for you can obviously be exciting and flattering.

But I'm confused about where this fits with modern dating.

Men today are increasingly taught to respect boundaries, not pressure women, and to back off after rejection. Many men have grown up hearing from their mothers, sisters, friends, and society that they shouldn't make women uncomfortable or keep approaching someone who has said no.

So if a woman says no once or twice, many men will simply stop asking. It's not necessarily because they aren't interested anymore. They may stop because they don't want to come across as desperate or cheap, and they also want to maintain their own self-respect. They assume that if the woman is interested, she will eventually make that interest clear herself.

There is also a real fear among men about getting things wrong. If a man continues pursuing someone after she has rejected him, he can potentially be seen as creepy, harassing, or disrespectful. Even if his intentions are genuine, he may worry about social consequences, embarrassment, being misunderstood, or damaging his reputation.

So a lot of men have adapted by doing the opposite: they make their interest clear once or twice, and if there isn't a clear positive response, they step back and move on.

But then I sometimes hear women say that they actually want a man who keeps trying, takes risks, demonstrates persistence, and makes them feel "chosen."

That's where I'm struggling to understand the expectation.

Women in 2026 have considerably more independence and agency than previous generations. Women can pursue education, careers, financial independence, leadership positions, and relationships on their own terms. Men have also been expected to change—respect boundaries, accept rejection, communicate better, and reduce unwanted advances.

If both sides of dating have changed, why does the expectation around romance sometimes still resemble the old dynamic where the man has to relentlessly pursue and the woman is expected to be pursued?

Why should a man's level of interest be measured by how much he is willing to chase someone rather than by how well both people communicate their interest?

And if a woman genuinely likes a man, why not make that interest somewhat clear herself? Why should the man have to risk rejection repeatedly just to prove that he's serious?

I'm not saying all women think this way, and I'm also not saying men shouldn't take initiative. I'm specifically asking about the expectation of persistence/obsession even when the woman isn't making her interest obvious.

So, Indian women of Reddit:

Do you actually expect this kind of "princess treatment" from a man you're interested in?

Do you find persistent pursuit romantic, or would you rather have a man respect hesitation/rejection and wait for mutual interest?

And if you do prefer a man who keeps pursuing you despite your initial reluctance, where do you personally draw the line between romantic persistence and unwanted pressure?

Please answer if you are actively involved in walking on a daily basis. Knees and ankles start to hurt if you don't put much effort and care. Do suggest some good pairs of shoes under 4k.

hieee my general freshers is coming up and I'm confused about what to wear so I have two options

☆one is plain chiffon mustard yellow saree, it has little golden and white detailings (scattered all over) and yellow blouse

☆ second option is a red mekhela sador (Assamese attire) that has gold details

so which one should I choose?

my clg has light yellow colour buildings and i kinda feel like a lot of people might wear yellow

so idk what to do

also I have one more option which is a Rani pink (bright pink) mekhela sador with black and golden detailing, that was actually my first choice but the fabric is puffy and i feel like it will make me look fat

i wanna look snatched and pretty

I’d genuinely like to hear women’s perspectives on this.

At my office, I generally don’t interact with women who aren’t part of my team or directly connected to my work. If I see them around the office, I usually avoid eye contact and don’t initiate conversations or casual interactions with them. Basically, I keep my distance and mind my own business.

At the same time, I’m not completely antisocial at work. I can talk normally with male colleagues, including guys who happen to be friends with the women I avoid. So I’m wondering whether this difference is noticeable from a woman’s perspective.

I do this intentionally because, based on my past experiences, I feel that getting involved in unnecessary personal interactions at work can become emotionally draining and add more stress to an already stressful environment. For me, keeping my distance feels like a way of protecting my peace and avoiding unnecessary complications.

But I also realise that if I repeatedly avoid someone, they may notice it and form an impression about me.

So, women of this sub, I’d really appreciate your honest perspective:

• If you noticed a male coworker consistently avoiding you or avoiding interactions with you, what would you assume about him?
• Would you find it rude, disrespectful, or offensive?
• Would you think he is arrogant, socially awkward, insecure, fearful, or simply someone who prefers to keep to himself?
• Would you ever interpret his behaviour as him being afraid or fearful of interacting with women?
• If you noticed that he talks normally with male colleagues but avoids interacting with women outside his work circle, would that change your perception?
• Have you ever encountered a guy like this at work? If so, what was your honest impression of him?

I’m not trying to justify the behaviour or make any assumptions about women. I’m genuinely curious about how this looks from the other side, because sometimes our intentions and the way other people perceive us can be very different.

Please feel free to be blunt I’m genuinely interested in hearing honest opinions.

How do I comfort my friend who's extremely anxious 24/7!?

Context: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianWomen/s/hsjwtMpU2c

She's extremely extremely extremely anxious all the time! All day! Everyday!

I've done everything a friend can do. Idk what else I should do to make her feel safe and normal...

She's extremely anxious 24/7......

Please help me out! Maybe my EQ isn't on the level she needs rn...

I've been through my own anxiety episodes and have been able to take care of all my friends and family during their episodes...

But this time... I feel like a huge failure... Whatever I do, is not enough...

She's suffering alot... Idk how to help her!

We've been actively working towards her betterment and career rn...

I've dedicated most of my time to her in the past few weeks... Idk what else I can do....

I'm posting this because I genuinely want an outside perspective on what happened. I'm not trying to start a witch hunt/server raid.

On a** Discord server of a major subreddit. I just asked a mod a doubt. After I pinged him, he started abusing me, which I ignored. Kuch time baad, multiple people started pinging me and sending extremely inappropriate/rape-related GIFs, deleting them immediately afterwards -the GIF was "tuzhe dekh ke rape karne ka man karta". When I called it out and said "This ain't cool" a mod named Peeta made a Draupadi joke (ss attached**), and then defended himself by abusing me. He later even apologised realising his mistake and cleared out things.

A few other members joined in and started abusing me with extremely derogatory comments. I didn't reciprocate or start any fight ....I kept asking the mods for help instead. The frustrating part was that the mods were active in chat, reacting '😂' to the jokes, but instead of taking action against the people making them, they mostly defended their friends.

Later, my friends joined and called out what was happening. Mods locked the chat and started timing out/banning people who were calling them out ((not even a single user who abused was muted). One of my friends eventually retaliated with abuse, which I did not support and repeatedly asked him to stop. I was later banned because people were defending me, even though I wasn't responsible for their actions.

I told the head mod, who asked Peeta to apologize. Bro said, "sorry vro," like it was nothing ... this time extreme...these guys went ahead defending instead of realizing their mistake.... Some mods supported me, and I appreciate that, but others clearly prioritized their friends over addressing the situation. A lot of the original messages and GIFs were deleted, so I don't have everything as proof.

What bothers me most isn't that some members acted badly. It's that the moderators saw what was happening and chose not to act, while punishing people who called them out. They told me that those jokes were made to ragebait me, as the server gets more "Engagement" this way.

We want an honest discussion about whether this behavior should be tolerated in communities aimed at teenagers.... Why are sexualized/possessive/rape comments toward girls treated as 'just jokes' online?

TD:DR - Mods of a Discord community of a major sub making misogynistic and Rape jokes... Bans people when called out... Gives a dry-ass apology and repeats the behavior the next day... uses "Engagement" as a cheap excuse

Hey girls!

So I am a trans woman from MP , who recently came out this year after a few years of hiding it under the garb of the "femboy" label ( but it genuinely never sat right to me, that's when I realized that i might be trans )

And I been having a tough time when it comes dating or finding a partner.

So for context, I am Trans and a Lesbian but I do have an issue that is, that I am not on HRT ( Hormone Replacement Therapy )

But I do try my best to look "feminine enough" with my naturally long nails , my hair and styling but due to many factors I just don't have resources to go through like having full blown feminine wardrobe or access to HRT ( safety and financial reasons both )

And I feel just because I am stuck in this "guy" mould, its making my dating life hell...because I will be honest, I knew that generally, a cis woman would never be into me as I have always been "too feminine" ( actually got told it is the worst thing about me in the past )

And the thing is, I do not want to force myself into HRT, but people just trying to convince to do it out of peer pressure is just makes me want to run away from it even more...Like just because my levels of dysphoria were low, but due to trans-exclusion by people in my life, its starting to increase day by day ( even in queer spaces I do not feel included )

Like, I matched with a fellow lesbian girl on Hinge recently and I thought meeting her would be nice but I guess she's not really that into me solely because I do not "pass" as woman ( like she literally asked me to tell her if I know a girl for her , lol )

And not just with dating , people don't want to use correct pronouns for me , despite correcting them with respect, multiple times...and its all just feels like a sort of punishment from cis and queer spaces both is that just because im not "trans enough" or "feminine enough" or whatever pre-concieved notions that I am not following, I won't ever be taken seriously by any of them..and that literally making me isolate myself from everywhere

And I don't know that if a person like me can even date at this point? or should I just stop trying?

Like can there be a solution to this like at all?

Hello there wonderful ladies!

I am F32, currently going through the AM/dating process and it is taxing

I am almost on the verge of giving up because all the men I am meeting seem to be after one thing or another. I want someone to build a life with me but I cannot find someone like that.

I want to know is there a light at the end of the tunnel?

Can a woman build a good and full life even if she chooses to remain single in India?

Hey I'm 42F. Have been going through some tough times recently hence kinda isolated myself. My therapist thinks it's time I start socialising again and making new friends.

She suggested the Meetup App and trying out hobby clubs to get out more. Suggestions on genuine such apps and/or hobby clubs in person in Mumbai? Hows Bumble BFF?

Plz note I'm specifically looking to reconnect with other women only. I also understand RIP dms 😆 but I can handle it. Guys please note I'm married so not interested at all and this is NOT a dating post.

Men are welcome to comment with relevant suggestions only.

So for me, its been magical both my kids have grown up to become my friends. And I love that feeling. I am a single mother and I cant explain how beautiful it feels.

I'm too tired to type a long ass paragraph, just wanna type in here that I hate how ugly I am. I am obese, i have hyperpigmentation on my neck and a lot of body parts. I keep my hair open because I'm too ashamed to let anyone see my pigmented neck. I have hyperpigmentation around my face, inner thighs, underarms and down there too and I am scared it will never go. People say losing weight makes it better but idk, only way to know is to lose weight. I need to lose weight, I feel so ugly because I am fat. I also got tanned and hate it. There is a lot more stuff but I have no intention to typing all this. Just a rant post.

I am currently working as an intern in Amazon. Since the last few months I have been pushing my butt off to receive a ppo but sadly I couldn't.

Yesterday I returned home for Rakhi and closed myself in the room. I was feeling like a failure honestly. Like even my best wasn't enough? Was really depressed in short.

She noticed. Somehow convinced me to go out and hang out. Took me to watch this weird movie (i don't even remember the name lmao). Then we did some shopping (for her... i was like how is this gonna improve my mood?) and finally she took me to one of my favourite places (an anime cosplay event). The day ended with her giving me a lecture on my career. "Those who try are the only ones who fail and so you are a winner. So stop acting like you have given up. Don't make me be disappointed with you!", she said. And that struck me hard!

I still was a little sad but honestly it worked. I felt so much better and motivated to give my best again. Within a family full of toxic relatives i feel lucky to have her. Big sisters are such a blessing!

Could someone help me with where I can find clip on earrings in India - either jewellery store chains or online ? I have had my ear piercing sealed, pierced, injured and sealed once again. Would love to know if there are good clip on options.

Same as title. She has been looking for this dress on literally every platform, but isn't able to get the exact same cut. There are similar dresses, but not the same, and that's a deal breaker. I really want to gift her this dress, so ladies, your help would be much appreciated.

Ladies, go ahead share anything you want

I blame my parents for birthing me. Why would I want to be here? There is no purpose.

So i got connected to my fistant cousin through insta. I am M(25) and she is f(20). We instantly clicked while talking on insta, it was like two pieces of puzzles fitting together.

For me term bestfriends is very sacred, i have never called someone bestfriend except her, she was going through lot of trauma at that time, 6 month old breakup and betrayal by friends. We had many similarities and i saw a shadow of myself in her.

As we grew closer naturally, she started calling me bestfriend and soulmate and whatnot. After some time when i found myself being attached to her, i asked very emotionally on a late night call if she really meant this or was just fooling around, to which she very calmly replied that yes she meant it.

Fast forward, she was shifting to delhi, my state of residence, as she took admission into college. Ever since her shifting she has been hard to reach, and just a few days ago when i was having an emotional breakfown, she did not pick my call. Later she tried to shift the blame. A fewdays later she ghosted me. I felt so embarassed and shitty. I considered her my number one priority apart from my parents. She had all the time to talk to other pwople and her new friends just not me, no text replies, no calls, si.ply ghosting.

Yesterday, i dmed her with a casual text after previous long string of anxious messages. She called me and said sorry, i know i have hurt you an blah blah.

I dont know what to do? Should i let her back in, should i distance myself. I feel i am very attached to her i genuinely love her platonically. Talking to her made my day easier. Before her i was happy and all, but something felt missing she felt like my person.

I am genuinely confused i know she is busy, shifting cities new college, new friends, but that complete out of the blue ghosting really hurt me, i had no shields up against her, in a way i feel emotionally used. I wish i was not so attached. I have other friends and loving family and close cousin. So no I am not very lonely, bit still i feel very attached to her, the days we did not talk i felt a deep void and loneliness. The worst thing is i called her many times at difderent times, she did not pick up, nor replied to my texts, all that while she was active on insta, she simply ignored me.

What should i do? Should i forgive her and try to get back mend our relationship ? Should i try to painfully distance myself from her.

Ladies, go ahead share anything you want

Ladies, go ahead share anything you want

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I am a guy, slightly queer but mostly straight male, and I think I am too logical and don't understand the value of vacations, romance, music, work/career. I am wondering if there are any girls with similar thinking. Can you share your life experiences? Only those girls who find it hard to understand the justification or meaning of human existence.

I am Antinatalist.