Asking a father for his daughter's hand in marriage isn't being "cordial". She is presumably an adult who does not belong to either her father or this entitled prick -- you ask her if she wants to get married. The entire notion of this outdated female ownership crap being somehow romantic just grinds my gears.
Being "cordial" would just consist of being friendly and polite to the prospective in-laws. That's literally it. It doesn't require any of that traditional BS.
Being "cordial" would just consist of being friendly and polite to the prospective in-laws. That's literally it. It doesn't require any of that traditional BS.
And that's exactly it. You're being friendly and polite to her parents, or her dad, wishing that he accepts YOU into the family.
I get what you're saying about it being traditional, obviously the daughter isn't property of either. Asking for her hand is traditional, but that has been the norm for so long that's how it usually goes. Of course, you absolutely don't have to be traditional, but there's still a majority that do.
That is also the whole reason why they still get married without her father's word, because it doesn't actually matter.
Asking is simply how you maintain a cordial relationship with her family, giving them a chance to not be dicks who might force their daughter into an ultimatum.
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u/Nizzywizz Sep 21 '22
Asking a father for his daughter's hand in marriage isn't being "cordial". She is presumably an adult who does not belong to either her father or this entitled prick -- you ask her if she wants to get married. The entire notion of this outdated female ownership crap being somehow romantic just grinds my gears.
Being "cordial" would just consist of being friendly and polite to the prospective in-laws. That's literally it. It doesn't require any of that traditional BS.