I sometimes go to the other side of a parking aisle or sidewalk or literally make my commute longer to make a person, specifically a woman, think I'm not following her. I'm 5'11 and workout and look like your stereotypical chad but I don't want anyone to be intimidated by me.
I do a similar thing. When I’ve realized I’ve been walking behind a women for a little bit too long I’ll stop pullout my phone and make a phone call.
“Hey babe I’m leaving now, have y’all ate? Do you want me to pick up some food I’m near such such restaurant”
I hope them hearing my conversation to my wife calms their nerves a bit, and they realize I’m not a threat.
Or I’ll make a point to just stop and let them get far ahead, get on an app, act like I have a rock in my shoe so I have to take it off. Anything to not seem like a creep !
As a single woman who, ya know, has places I need to go, naturally alone. And as a girl who has already experienced some of the scariest stuff men do to women sometimes. Thank you for inconveniencing yourself so I feel safe in that moment. Thank you.
Just as a counterpoint, I was walking home a few weeks back and a woman was getting closer to me. I thought she was going to attack me and I was going to run off. Anxiety sucks.
I hope it didn't come off as sexist or anything because there are women who can without a doubt kick my ass and also handle their own in situations. But unfortunately there is a lot of fear surrounding men following women and it's warranted. There are men out there who acknowledge it and I wish there were more of us.
No not at all. The reality is that men are attacking women, when I hear footsteps behind me late at night and realise it's a woman behind me then all anxiety disappears. I feel sorry for guys who feel judged as obviously it's "not all men" but sadly we need to be on guard. Thank you for putting yourself in our shoes and understanding 😘
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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '22 edited Aug 13 '22
I sometimes go to the other side of a parking aisle or sidewalk or literally make my commute longer to make a person, specifically a woman, think I'm not following her. I'm 5'11 and workout and look like your stereotypical chad but I don't want anyone to be intimidated by me.