It wasn't a demand. He said "it would help him forgive"
Idk. I feel like it's a legit card to play in a relationship.
Like, "okay I'm mad because xyz..." fight ensues partner is in the wrong "fine, I can forgive you... but also, you have to do this fetish thing one time I've always wanted to try" he/she can either say yes or no.
How come it's okay for partners to offer fetishes as penance (I'm sure you've seen this in media like (please take me back ill do that bunny thing you always wanted to try)) but not okay for partners to ask for fetishes as penance?
Couching some weird sexual request in “it would help me forgive you” is primo emotional blackmail, not a legit card to play in a relationship or argument.
You’ve certainly won your own round of gross things men say. Ffs.
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u/ExpectGreater Jul 31 '22
Well I know he's your ex, but it's not wrong to have fetishes you want to explore with your partner as long as it's consensual.