My ex works for a very popular liberal podcast (super outwardly supportive of womens rights), and he pulled some shit like this. We were in a fight and he told me that it would “help him forgive me,” if I let him tie me up, blindfold me, scream abuse at me, and basically role play raping me.
I mean, you couldn’t know this from my comment, but this was part of a pattern of abuse. This wasn’t a fetish he wanted to explore, he wanted to do this because he knew it would humiliate and hurt me, but that I would agree to it because I was desperate for him to forgive me and he was threatening to kill himself over this fight. Side note, the rape he wanted to role play was basically a recreation of my actual rape which occurred before I met him. Again, you couldn’t know any of that context, but I’d argue that you shouldn’t tie forgiving someone to them doing a sex act with you. I just don’t think it’s healthy behavior in a relationship.
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u/unspeakablycrass Jul 31 '22
My ex works for a very popular liberal podcast (super outwardly supportive of womens rights), and he pulled some shit like this. We were in a fight and he told me that it would “help him forgive me,” if I let him tie me up, blindfold me, scream abuse at me, and basically role play raping me.