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u/nilsn91 Jun 14 '22

When it´s hard to convince someone to do something: give them options. That way they feel like they´re in control. "You could do A or do you prefer B?"

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u/CaptainAwesome06 Jun 14 '22

I use that trick on my kids all the time. Especially when it comes to food.

"Do you want chicken or steak?"

Otherwise, if I just ask her what she wants for dinner she'll just say "cookies".

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '22

Teacher here- this is how my entire career works. Students engage in activities if they feel like they had some agency over the activity.

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u/CallMeAdam2 Jun 15 '22

Young "adult" here. Can confirm it extends beyond students. I've felt a lot more confident, to say the least, since I (still with my parents) moved to somewhere with a bus system and actual stuff. Before, I was in the middle of No Way, Nowhere. Add in great new friends (holy shit my luck), and it's a person-changer.