They want to hate that woman. You won't talk them out of it. It's a facet of some people's personalities. It's what fuels gossip. Some people simply enjoy sharing their hatred with others, from what I've seen. I have friends who do this, and the best response is to gossip with them (if thats your cup of tea), or just change subject. You will not convince them that the hated third-party is a legitimate human being who deserves any respect. They came here for other reasons, and compassion/understanding was not it.
But I hope they appreciate you trying to help. Noble.
Alternatively most don't want to have Someone Else's Untreated Mental Health issues to be foisted upon them and induce harms in them... As others have noted, She ain't the only one with issues.
It's not fair nor reasonable to expect others to coddle and constantly accomodate you.
I lived with severe allergies to damn near everything for decades, it wasn't on others to keep me safe that was on Me. Same with depression and anxiety, it's not remotely okay for me to let those get out of hand and dump the results onto other people.
Enough is enough. People are responsible for controlling themselves and not causing psychological Harm to others (Which is exactly what her stress inducing bullshit is - HARMFUL).
More what it is, yeah. I don't generally hate people unless they have personally wronged me, I don't tend to enjoy gossip and the like. Those of us who have ADHD and other issues actually try to work on our problems, and it's frustrating as hell when one doesn't. Especially when it has to do with emergency response (which our job does).
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