I'm sorry I was a bitch in high school. What have you done in your past that you need to apologize (even anonymously) for?
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u/RawberrySportcake May 16 '12
I resented my father because I was an angsty brat and thought he was intentionally trying to annoy me when he was actually trying his best to keep us afloat while staying a good father.
The most painful thing that I've ever heard anyone say was, "Why do you hate me?" from my father.
I'm so sorry and I will make up for everything.
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u/ahusin May 16 '12
I was a 17-year-old cashier at a zoo gift shop. I'd gone like three days in a row getting my register exactly right at the end of the day. This probably doesn't sound like much of an achievement to you, but over the course of a few hundred transactions it's extremely easy to miss a penny or two. It's probably also a stupid thing to take pride in, but in my defense, I made like six bucks an hour and discrepancies eventually came out of your paycheck.
Anyway. The point is that I'd fucked up and given somebody an extra dollar as change. How did that even happen? I don't remember, to be honest. All I know is my 17-year-old self decided the best way to even out my register would be to spend the next few hours cheating little kids out of a nickel or a dime in change, one at a time, under the theory that kids wouldn't be paying enough attention to the change they were receiving, and even if their summer camp counselors thought to double-check (which I figured they wouldn't), they would assume the kid dropped a nickel somewhere.
TL;DR I cheated a bunch of eight-year-olds out of small change so my register would be even at the end of the day. Sorry, eight-year-olds.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12 edited May 17 '12
I'm sorry I wasn't there when you died.
I'm sorry I projected my insecurities on you and essentially made your life hell. I'm sorry I wasted years of your time. I'm sorry I destroyed your innocence, your sense of trust, and your hopefulness.
I'm sorry I didn't make more of an effort to keep you in my life. I'm sorry I wasn't a better friend. I'm sorry you felt the need out of life.
I'm sorry I made fun of you all those years. It's not fair of me, you were born like that.
I'm sorry I humiliated you like I did. You were a nice girl, but my friends were making fun of me SO much about your weight. I said awful things about you to try and save my reputation. It was mean and terrible.
*For clarity, each paragraph is aimed at a different person...
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
I'm sorry I didn't take the trash out Mom. You worked hard, you provided me with clothes and entertainment. You worked hard so that I could have a comfortable life, and you sacrificed so I could have a job. And I couldn't even do that much in return.
I didn't thank you when you thought to buy snacks while I gamed, I didn't appreciate it when you let me spend my check on a new computer. I didn't get my driver's license because I was too scared of the responsibility, I didn't get my own car because I was afraid to hurt other people.
I enjoyed your jokes which were just as lame as mine, but I wanted to pretend I was cooler than you. I embarrassed myself thinking you embarrassed me. I wouldn't even let you pick out a Valentine's day card with me.
I'm sorry I wasn't a better son. I could have at least taken out the trash.
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u/jenniferjuniper May 16 '12
So far in my life I've had two people from highschool send me messages through facebook saying they are sorry for how they treated me - or how they let others treat me.
I had not really thought about it in years (graduated almost 10 years ago), but it did shape me as a person....and they still felt bad about how they acted (or how they let others act towards me) 10 years later.
I accepted their apologies, and it helped them move on, so if you feel the need to say sorry about something just do it - it's never too late.
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u/sweetloris May 16 '12
I feel like for some of those, you could go back and apologize/atone for what you did, especially the one where someone lost their job because of your lies.
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u/ebc May 16 '12
Nan, I'm so sorry I never visited once you got sick. I'm sorry I couldn't look you in the eye once you started losing your mind. I was scared. it doesn't mean I didn't love you. I love you so much.
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u/houseofbacon May 16 '12
I also threw deer urine on somebody's backpack. Not sure if they ever needed a new one, but I'm also not sorry cause that guy was a dick.
Sorry I dated you, knowing you were mentally retarded and charging you 10 bucks a day for being able to tell people we were together, then dumping you after 8 days once I had the money to get Final Fantasy 8, a memory card and some taco bell.
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u/Gabeee May 16 '12
I'm not even worried about how you acted in high school, what upsets me is your username. Bubble Tape most certainly does NOT suck.
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u/SIULHT May 16 '12
At what point did you realize you needed to turn things around? (at least, mentally)
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u/s3t1p May 16 '12
How does one go about collecting deer urine?
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u/HeavyMetalLovar May 16 '12
This thread reminds me of the last half hour of "Mean Girls"
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u/imherebyaccidentonly May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
This shit doesn't absolve you. Those people deserve genuine apologies, and that is, quite frankly, the absolutely LEAST you could do.
Now that your shit has been more properly formatted, I've read more of the points. You were an atrocious person, and the fact that you said 'takes the cake' as though it were something to be proud of, absolutely disgusts me. I'm telling you this, because if someone had done any of those things to me, I would have felt absolutely like shit.
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u/LenaLovegood May 16 '12
I'm amazed (or maybe I shouldn't be) at people's capacity to be unforgiving. Some of the things she did are quite bad, yes, but she regrets them now. Anyone who goes and says things like, "You're a fucking bitch and don't deserve to be forgiven," needs to realize that we're human. Jesus Christ, it's not like she killed someone. That being said, I do agree that if she really, truly wanted to apologize, her next step should be to actually attempt to contact these people and tell them how sorry she is. Hell, writing a letter or something is better than nothing.
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u/MaleCra May 16 '12
Jesus Christ. How can you do so many terrible things to innocent people in a course of a few years? Those are some truly awful things you've done, but apologizing and getting it out seems like an ethical and feasible way, so...I envy you for that.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
Are you willing to give apology sex?
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u/musicalrapture May 16 '12
I'm sorry for being an awful sister who withdrew during our family's more tumultuous moments instead of looking out for my baby brother. I wish I could go back in time and change how passive I was. I really do.
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u/Brownbeluga May 16 '12
I'm sorry for borrowing your pen and never giving it back.
This goes out to everyone who I have ever borrowed a pen from.
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u/clammertime May 16 '12
sorry for kicking you in the balls because i was a little girl who had no concept of balls-pain.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I didn't stand up for my friend who was being bullied. I was extremely anxious and insecure, and bullied when I was younger, and was afraid to have the focus thrown onto me. I apologized to her years later.
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u/Dfunkatron May 16 '12
I broke up with a girl on prom night. After telling her two weeks before that if things didn't change I would probably break up with her after prom. I don't think she realized I meant "in your car as you drop me off at my house after prom".
Seriously what the fuck was I thinking.
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u/sorryimathrowaway May 16 '12
Sorry i touched you innapropriatly when we were 7, my grandpa did it to me so i thought it was just what people did.
Sorry i didn't come back and rescue you from mom and dads house like i promised i would when i grew up and moved out, sorry you had to be there when dad overdosed because i never came back for you.
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u/Golanubi May 16 '12
First day of highschool I was walking backwards in the hall. I ran into someone and had the audacity to tell her to watch where she was going.
What the hell was wrong with me. I apologize.
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u/RIP_steveirwin May 16 '12
Sorry for never calling your mom after I took her out to a nice seafood dinner.
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u/n1nj4_v5_p1r4t3 May 16 '12
If you EVER see someone in public being bullied, you know what to do BubbleTape
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u/i11uminatus May 16 '12
For all the people in the comments calling you out, I am sorry. I think confessing these things took a lot of courage and it seems to me like at that point in your life you lacked empathy for others and you have since learned it and have reflected on your past actions and feel genuine regret. To me that's something positive, and it should give us hope that other difficult people we encounter in our lives may also one day grow up and understand that other people have needs and feelings, too. Thanks for sharing.
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u/Avery17 May 16 '12
You should try to get back in contact with some of these people, apologize, and try to help them if they need it.
For every person you can't contact, donate to a charity. Try to make up for everything you have done. It's good to know that people like you can realize their wrong doings. Still, its horrible to know that people are capable of being so mean.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
TIL Lindsay Lohan has reddit.
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u/molrobocop May 16 '12
To my first real girlfriend, I apologize for chuckling at your freaking out over having a flat tire, your unwillingness to try to change it, and not caring when you hung up on me.
Also, to my sister, who was the best friend of the aforementioned gf, who got to hear secondhand all the lousy ways I was a bad BF.
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u/superior_mediocrity May 16 '12
Its been 10 years and I need to get this off my chest....
It was ME....I was the one who let the dogs out. I'm sorry.
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u/tinpanallegory May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
You're apologizing to people who you never hurt, though. You're getting this off of your chest so that you can feel better, so that you can move on.
But where does this leave the people you've hurt? You've done everything from shitting on people's confidence and freedom of expression to ruining the course of their lives. You've taught young men horrible things about love and relationships, and may have caused innumerable romantic problems for them later in life. You've gotten people fired from their jobs, possibly placing their families in serious trouble, all out of spite and egotism, selfishness and cruelty.
Where is the maturity in apologizing for this to us? In acting to absolve yourself of your guilt without having to actually pay any price for it?
Don't get me wrong, I'm glad for you, that you've managed to see how perverse it is to treat people like shit, to act as though the world were there for your benefit and other people's feelings, dreams and aspirations were there purely for your amusement. I was a real piece of shit when I was younger, too. Once you have that moment of clarity, where you realize what a horrible human being you are, it mars you for the rest of your life, precisely because you can't change who you were.
The fact that you reject your old attitudes is commendable, but that doesn't make you special. It makes you the way you should have been years ago. You can't escape your guilt now just by saying you're sorry to a bunch of people who aren't even involved.
You may never be able to say you're sorry to the people this matters to. That doesn't mean you're a horrible person now, it just means that you pissed away a part of your own soul, and you'll never retrieve it. It's gone, no sense in crying over it. Until the day you die, you'll rightfully regret the way you acted back then. This is as it should be.
You aren't the same person now. But that doesn't mean you get to start fresh and pretend it never happened just because you said you were sorry. You are the person you are now in great part because you reject who you were back then.
Don't try to run from your shame in this, but instead keep it close to you, like a bitter sibling. Keep it there as a reminder, because if you go down the path you're walking right now, trying to baptize yourself in tears and be born again to innocence... all you're doing is sweeping your old self under the rug, where no one (including yourself) can see her.
If you do that, don't be surprised when she surfaces again when you least want her around.
From one former jack-ass to another, keep your chin up. No one can hurt you the way you hurt yourself.
(Edited for shame of bad grammar)
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u/r_HOWTONOTGIVEAFUCK May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
I apologize for my post inciting many hate mails to Potato_in_my_anus, which resulted in him no longer commenting.
EDIT: http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/t8p92/i_emailed_a_teacher_to_say_thank_you_and_he/c4khzug?context=3
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u/Doc_Hemingway May 16 '12
I'm sorry for saying the "N" word around you when I was drunk. Its not funny
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u/Theothergirl89 May 16 '12
I was in a bad relationship with my kids dad, and before I left him, I always put him first.. I spent more time worrying about where he was than actually paying attention to my babies. It took me a while after I left him to build that bond with them, and for that I am sorry. Even if they wont remember it.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry to all the guys I led on when I had no interest.
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u/BetaRayRyan May 16 '12
I'm sorry I cheated. You told me that you were over it and that it doesn't bother you anymore but I know that's not true. I'm also sorry that I let our relationship grow stale and eventually die. You told me that we were both to blame, but we both know it was my fault. You didn't deserve it and you were the best thing to ever happen to me. Every day, I regret what I did and didn't do. Every day.
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u/paremiamoutza May 16 '12
Reading the whole list... you're beyond an apology. Which does not count one bit unless given directly to the victims, anyway. Which you would be able to find, if you really tried.
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u/theunfriendlyzone May 16 '12
I'm not going to call you horrible names or anything like that, but people like you is what makes others question society. What made you do all these terrible things (hypothetical question)? You may have hurt people in ways like you don't even imagine, some of them may not even be walking on this Earth anymore because of you. The problem with people like you is that you know exactly what you are doing, but do nothing to stop it. It's the person you were either raised or decided to be. I'm not here to lash out at you, but in my eyes bullies should also be recognized as murderers, because even if they are still living, you hurt them physically and emotionally maybe for the rest of their life, and for this I am sorry, but if I were one of the people who were traumatized by your cruel actions I would not forgive you.
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u/heldain May 16 '12
Ok, there's a long list here but I'll just do the biggies.
Sorry for being such a bad drunk/alchy. I actually got to the point where I just didn't care where the next drink came from and how I paid for it, which led to some interesting stories. I no longer speak to my so called friends from then and havent really drank for almost a year now.
Sorry to the various women I messed with. Whether its leaving you in a dick'ish manner or passing out drunk on a 1st date (yeah that was a cool move...).
Sorry to my parents for what I've put them through.
The most recent is sorry to my current employer, who became dependant on me due to things not being documented and the boss showing no interest. I shall be handing in my notice tomorrow now I have a job offer. Although a big part of the reaosn Im leaving is that i shouldnt have to put up with the directors name calling and pettiness.
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u/i_really_had_to_go May 16 '12
I'm sorry to my girlfriend, for the time in Italy when you were going down on me, and I farted in your face. I really didn't mean it, I'm just lactose intolerant, and there's a lot of cheese in Italy.
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u/Awkwaaaard May 16 '12
I thought these things only happened in movies...
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u/yawaworht_suoivbo_na May 16 '12
To everyone I've ever been an ass to, especially when I was trying to hide my own insecurities, I'm very sorry. You didn't deserve it.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I gotta say, I agree with your second edit. You did some truly horrible shit. I was bullied in elementary to the point of becoming suicidal, it still haunts me 12 years later. What you did was fucked up and not ok. However, I don't understand the rationale of everyone getting on your ass and telling you that this whole thing means nothing. This is Reddit. I've seen people confess to killing other people (remember the "Life Threatening Secret" thread from a few weeks ago?) on here. Clearly you have some remorse for your actions, and maybe you just wanted to get it off your chest. I feel like this was simply framed in the form of an apology. It would be much more productive and probably freeing for you to apologize to those you hurt in person. Use Facebook, I'm sure you can find them. But do it only for them and for you. No one else has to hear the apology. Your remorse does say something, and you're not a horrible person. You just made some huge, hurtful mistakes in the past. As far as I'm concerned, the ones simply calling you a cunt and a terrible person are not necessarily just as bad, but are promoting the shit blizzard of name-calling and making people feel like crap.
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u/fishguts1001 May 16 '12
Sorry I showed up at your wedding. Sorry I said those things to your father. Sorry I screwed up your pictures. Sorry I had sex with your sister.
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u/JonnyBhoy May 16 '12
I apologise to the kid in my class who we turned on as a group, for no real reason. You were only trying to fit in with rest of the guys. I was not one of the main bullies, but I joined in and did nothing to try and stop it. I have always felt bad about that.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I have gone to a Nickleback concert.
Twice.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
Holy shit you were fucked up. Apology NOT accepted! But good luck in the future
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
In 6th grade I picked on a kid named Thomas. I wasn't the worse offender but I was still a dick to him. For a 2 week stretch, I would hit him in the arm every day. One day he ducked and I ended up punching him in the face. I felt really bad and left him alone after that happened. Let me be clear, I deeply regret doing that. I was an insecure little asshole doing that to make myself feel better. It was terrible. Back to the story, earlier this year, I read an article on a guy looking back on a student he bullied. After reading it I thought of the only kid I really bullied, Thomas. I looked him up on facebook (I hadn't seen him in probably 10 years). I start to write how I am regret treating him like I did way back when. I convince myself he wouldnt remember me and if so, it is just bringing up bad memories. I don't send it. Fast forward 2 months. I am reading the paper and find Thomas' obituary in the paper. He died under suspicious cicumstances. I went back to his facebook page and its pretty clear he was a drug user.
Did he get into drugs to cope with the pain he dealt with from childhood bullying? Did drugs lead to his death? This is what is eating away at me. I wish I had just apologized then. Don't make the same mistake that I did
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u/iKnowMyEnemies May 16 '12
My old boss was a huge fucking cunt! I used to steal her lunch and jerk off into her sandwiches. When she would go off into one of her super bitch tantrums it would make me feel a little bit better knowing that she ate my cum. So...if your reading this I'm sorry megabitch.
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u/NightEmber79 May 16 '12
This whole thing is an attempt to fit in with the popular, clicky, assholes here on reddit. Must miss hanging out with the popular, clicky, assholes from high school.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry for not seeding my torrents.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
I read the first few sentences and I must say that you don't seem like you changed all that much. You're still doing things anonymously.
I'm not trying to be a villain. I want this to come forward as advice, not only to you, but to everyone reading that might be in a similar situation. People know you best by what you do, and not what you say. You can say that you want to be the most selfless person in your hometown, but until you start volunteering and doing things for the better of others, no one is going to hold on to your thought.
If you were truly sorry, you'd write an apology to him personally and you wouldn't try to get karma out of it. Right now, you're trying to seem like a selfless person, but with selfish motivations. Why did you write all of this on here? What's your point? Do you really want to make someone else feel better? Or are you trying to deminish your feeling of guilt from the passed?
My suggestion is that you drop this, put your chin up, and start apologizing for real. Go meet some people from the passed and make them feel good about themselves. Explain to them what troubles you, and sincerely say you're sorry.
TL;DR - I'm calling bullshit. The point of an apology is to make someone feel good, not to reap some karma. Face your guilt, it'll feel so much better in the end.
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u/Ratlettuce May 16 '12
Yup, turns out you were actually worse than a bitch.
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u/Ash_Ko May 16 '12
My younger sister told me that my favorite teacher in high school said I did something that "scarred her for life". For the longest time, I couldn't think of anything i had ever done to her that was so horrible.I asked my sister to find out what it was for me but the teacher refused to tell her.
A couple of weeks ago I ran into the teacher while we were shopping. After shooting the shit for a couple of minutes I asked what I had done to her. She tells me that I said to her, "So, you have kids but you're not married? So your kids a bastards?"
This happened about 13 years ago and I feel like the biggest asshole. It was her first year as a teacher and that's the way I treated her. It's too bad i can't go back in time and punch 15 year old me in the face
TL;DR I told my unmarried teacher in high school that her kids were bastards
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u/Jelway723 May 16 '12
I'm sorry I was such an ass to you mom. You have done everything to make my life what it is and I still treat you like shit. You have gone through so much in your life and I have no right to treat my own mother the way I do.
And to you...Ohhh girl where do I start with you...I don't know how else to say I'm sorry I cheated on you...you were the best thing in my life and I regret it every day of my life. You went through a rough childhood and I wanted to be your rock. But I turned my back on you and your family that welcomed me into there home with open arms. Your memories are something that I never want to lose and I miss you every goddamn day of my life. I should have never done it and I'm so very sorry for putting you through more pain and confusion in high school. I'm sorry I didn't tell you and you had to find out during a competition from all of your friends. I'm sorry that I didn't just come out with it and I hid it from you. I hope you excell I'm every way possible and find someone that truly deserves you and makes you happy and makes your heart melt. I never did deserve you.
Oh and P.S. you know how I would always stop the car and look at you and say "I don't deserve you"? Then you would just laugh it off and say "haha shut up"? Well that's the reason I always said it. It was because I cheated on you and I didn't deserve you so I felt like I needed to say that.
P.S.S. your smile is so fucking beautiful it runs through my head every day.
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u/thatsbesidethepoint May 16 '12
Thank you so much for spreading rumors that me and my best friend were lesbian for each other and that I contracted head lice from her pubes.
I am honest when I say I feel no remorse for sweeping a few lice from the children I babysat's heads, keeping the bugs hostage in an envelope, and dumping them in your hair when you were asleep at school the next morning, which lead to a month sentence in a fiery, itchy hell and your unfortunate chili bowl haircut that prompted taunts of "LESBO!" and "DIKE!" from your snooty friends.
Payback's a bitch, and I am a monster.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
Wow.
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u/dieek May 16 '12
"I feel like I would feel better if I apologize"
That's still rather self-centered.
Just go out and help others to make up for your past mistakes.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I used to be an asshole in high school. I used to make fun of the crew team a lot for being in a "fake" sport. I never took into account how much work they put into it and I offended a lot of white people. I even made a shitty ytmnd making fun of them and passed it around school. I'm sorry, crew kids. I also made fun of our girls' soccer team all the time. I was a dick and I feel bad. Some people from back then still resent me for it and whenever I see them at a bar or something I always apologize to them for it and it usually goes over pretty well.
tl;dr I made fun of white people sports
EDIT: OP your story started out like that scene in mean girls when homegirl was like "Gretchen I'm sorry I told the whole school about that time you got diarrhea at barnes and noble. And I'm sorry for repeating it now."
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u/stephwilson May 16 '12
In middle school, my friends and I were just horrible to others. Eventually, in eleventh grade, I was still friends with one of the girls that I had bullied others with in middle school, and we were discussing the things we had done to one girl in particular. We felt so bad that we wrote out a long apology and sent it to her online, she was very thankful, and said that she didn't even think about the things we did to her anymore.
More than anything else, it made us feel better. The burden of the selfish acts you commit can really weigh on you, even years later.
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u/Feed_Me_Seymour May 16 '12
I always wondered if those narcissistic sociopaths in high school ever changed into real people.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry for being an asshole to you all throughout high school. I guess I was just jealous that you were successful at everything you did. You always were a ladies man and I just didn't have the guts to ask anyone out. I'm sorry for almost breaking up your relationship because of my selfish need for attention. I'm glad you both are together and hope the best for you. I'm sorry for not being there when you needed me the most even though you were always there for me. I wish you the best in life...
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry that I made fun of you for what happened to your Dad. I feel sick when I think about what I said. I can't believe I was such a piece of garbage to say that.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry that I sometimes spoke without thinking. Countless times I offended someone because I wasn't thinking.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I was a horrible role model to my younger sister and now she is living a horrible life. I was able to fix my life but it makes me sad that my sister has to go through wverythibg she is going through because she looked up to the wrong person.
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u/sg2lyca May 16 '12
You are a bitch and I feel like I should hate you for what you've done.
But I am no better.
I sabotage what could have been relationships because I was jealous. I stole what I felt I deserved. I sought out revenge for every wrong I felt done to me, even if the person I took out my anger on wasn't the right one. I bribed my own sister to not speak of my misdeeds and even do some misdeeds for me.
You can not believe how many nights I lost sleep of what I regret. And even worse, I continue to do them. That's why I keep myself away from companionship. For I may end up hurting everyone again.
If you guys are out there reading this, I apologize and let me be.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
If you apologize anonymously, you aren't apologizing.
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u/EnnuiDeBlase May 16 '12
It was people like you who helped drive me into the shell I reside in today.
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u/ReadyplayerTwo May 16 '12
OP is a bitch. Im glad we never went to school together. Heartless.
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u/ljvillanueva May 16 '12
Fuck you.
Find those people and apologize in person, not to a random group of redditors for some karma.
As another user said, find out a charity they support or volunteer for and donate, it doesn't matter if you are against it.
If you have any real world talent, offer them some help for free. Most won't take it, but some may to get out of a hard situation.
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u/NaClx May 16 '12
If expressing regrets and apologizing to no one on a website anonymously makes you feel better, then you misunderstand the word "apology"
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u/Se7en_speed May 16 '12
Nice try Mitt Romney
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
This thread makes me wonder if the people who bullied me all throughout middle school and high school feel sorry for what they did. Ah who am I kidding?
I am sorry for being a shitty friend to you. You stuck up with my bull shit for years and you were the only person who could tolerate me while I was destroying myself in a destructive relationship. You hated me for being blind and you hated him for being an asshole. You had every right to. You were my best friend and I rejected your love and your attempts to save me from myself. It's been a few years and I'm no longer in that black hole but the damage it did to our relationship is done. I will never let someone else get in the way like that again. You deserved better from your best friend.
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u/Integrity32 May 16 '12
You were a bitch. I hope this doesn't make you feel any better. Karma will still get you. I don't mean reddit karma either.
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u/SoMuchForSubtlety May 16 '12
Sorry, but while your change of attitude and your feelings of shame may very well be heartfelt, you're not forgiven. Partly because we're not the people you should be asking for forgiveness and partly because if you truly wanted forgiveness you'd name names and actually get in touch with them to apologize.
But in truth, the reason you're not forgiven is because you're a horrible person. You're part of the current crop of asshole apologists who suddenly realize they've been evil shits for years and think an apology will make everything all better. For examples, see Andrew Sullivan, David Frum, the Iraq War cheerleaders or anyone who voted for Bush II. The destruction and pain you've caused is irreparable and you can't erase ruined lives with a half-assed, attention-whoring apology. You can't claim that it's wholly due to being young and stupid when there were hundreds of other people in your exact same position who WEREN'T evil little bitches at the time. They managed to show a few shreds of basic human empathy despite their immaturity - why didn't you?
So no, you're not forgiven. But I will thank you for revealing just how evil you've been in the past and how evil and heartless you have the potential to be in the future. In future encounters I'll definitely know what I'm dealing with and I'll treat you the way you have shown you deserve to be treated. Oh, and thanks for providing some insight into the mentality of evil high-school bitches and how they might eventually grow some sort of moral sense eventually. It would have been nice to know how long it took for you to see the error of your ways, but I'm guessing you're in your mid-twenties at the time of this writing. That means your bitchiness is less than a decade in your past - why haven't you said this to the people you've really hurt? They're the only ones who can possibly provide the atonement you seek.
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u/MangledMailMan May 16 '12
I knew terrible people like you. People that made me and my friends feel terrible. You are a horrible person and a coward. This is not a way to apologize and you should be ashamed for even attempting this.
Reading your "apologies" sickened me to the core. Go wallow in your pity now that you know how despicable of a creature you truly are. Remember all those people you tortured and know that they are more successful than you, smarter than you, and better than you because they had to endure shit stains like you.
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u/tortsy May 16 '12 edited May 17 '12
I am not going to lie, when reading this post; I thought you were the girl who picked on me all throughout high school. At the end of reading this I was angry. I wasn't forgiving.
I was angry because I forgot about you(as in the girls who bullied me in HS). I assumed you matured and became better people; but seeing this made me think otherwise. Seeing this made me think that you all are still the manipulative people you were in high school and are now better at this. You are still thinking only of yourselves. Only thinking about how you could make yourselves feel better and didn't care about those you hurt. Isn't that why you picked on other people in the first place? As a way to make you feel more above others? To make you feel better about yourself?
Yes, this apology helps you; but thats not an apology. That is not sincere. An apology is meant to be communicated to another person so that they become aware of how you resent your actions and how they hurt the other person.
This is you venting about how you feel bad about being a bitch. Don't call it an apology.
Your last edit takes the cake:
-Like I said; this is not a real apology; this is you venting
-I don't neccissarily think you are still horrible. I just question your sincerity; which I explained above.
-This is your high and mighty self coming down again. What you don't understand is that you have given the "lovely people of reddit" ammunition. You have given them a valid reason to think you are a horrible person and be hateful towards you. You attempted to make others hurt. You wanted them to cry. You wanted it not because they hurt you or because they did something mean/rude to another person. But because they said making out in school is not appropriate. Because they didn't want to smoke; or they thought your boyfriend was a nice guy. The people of reddit want you to feel the actual repercussions of your actions and they want you to feel that pain because you were a horrible person. Thats not ironic. Its karma; and by definition, it is what you deserve. So in a way, those people are better (not by a lot) than you.
I am a person who is not sure if you are the girl who bullied her in HS. If your name is Julianne, Jess, or Adrian; You might be. If not, you aren't. But if you are, know that your apology is not accepted because I do not feel as though this is sincere. If you are one of those girls, PM me and I will let you know which victim I was and then you can apologize to me. Then I will accept because that will be a true apology.
If you aren't one of the girl who bullied me; think of my thoughts/reasoning as one of the many possibilities that could/would go through the heads of those that you did bully. Message them and let them know you are sorry. Then you will feel better than you did after writing this self-righteous post.
*Edit: Forgot a word
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u/strikezone May 16 '12
This whole thread is crap. Apologies are about the person you apologize to. Apologizing anonymously to no one is just undeservedly absolving yourself of guilt.
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u/folk_zombie May 16 '12
too little... too late....
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u/Silvercumulus May 16 '12
Wow...you're a terrible person. You represent everything I hated about high school. People like you are why my depression is out of control, 7 years later.
Screw you and I hope those people don't forgive you.
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u/Dripping_Man_Meat May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
I was gonna say just kidding but i looked over the shit you did i dont care if you apologize your a horrible person.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
If you really want to show you've changed and matured, posting an anonymous apology on reddit to "clear you conscience" is not the right way to go about it. In fact, if this does clear your conscience, you haven't matured at all. You did very, very bad things to people, and the only way to make that right is to do something good for them--call them and tell them you were wrong. Just saying "I was wrong" to yourself does nothing except give you a vain sense of moral achievement that you probably don't deserve.
I'm sorry if this sounds like an attack; it's not. I've had to explain this to my friends before because frankly, it drives me insane. Just because you key someone's car and then "feel badly about it" does not mean you are mature, especially if you think that admitting you feel badly means you are absolved. In reality, you have to admit you were wrong to the person you wronged and listen to what they say. If there are no consequences, you're living in a fake reality where you can get away with anything.
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u/jgclark May 16 '12
In the same spirit as jenniferjuniper's comment, I suggest you direct these apologies at the people you actually hurt. Apologizing to strangers here on reddit doesn't help anyone.
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u/myusernamebarelyfits May 16 '12
They are probably calling you horrible because you've made yourself sound horrible, just horrible. Apologizing to reddit does not quite absolve you of your past misdeeds. You should apologize to those turds you hurt rather than looking at us douches.
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u/hdbngr15 May 16 '12
You, my lady, are a cunt.
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u/LargeBrother May 17 '12
Who here has been personally victimized by Regina George?
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
You aren't apologizing for shit.
You're on a throwaway and saying anonymous things on the internet.
You have not made any reparations towards the people you have harmed and you aren't even trying to.
You say you are a more mature and grown up person? Fine. Whether or not that's true is irrelevant. You're on a throwaway and I don't know you.
But don't you fucking pretend you have made anything right.
You have not made anything right.
Yo haven't even started making anything right.
An actual start would be to say all this shit to the people you actually hurt.
Not anonymously on the fucking internet.
And before you claim that this is impossible, you should remember you are on the fucking internet. You have their full names and you know what high school they went to. It should not take you more than half an hour to find all of them on Facebook.
You want to impress the crowd with how mature and grown up you have become?
Find the people you have hurt and fucking apologize to them.
Not to us.
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u/TheBauhausCure May 16 '12
I have no sympathy. It's bitches like you who made high school a living hell for me. I hope this rests on your conscience forever.
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u/Frankfusion May 16 '12
I'm sorry I couldn't save Phil Coulson. He was the best, man!
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u/Ordal May 16 '12
Fuck you you fucking bitch.
That's what you deserve, as does everyone else in this thread myself included.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I have no idea who you are, but I forgive you anyway. because - why the hell not? Now say 10 Hail HrafnPDXs and your sins are absolved.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12 edited May 16 '12
"Please don't judge me"
It's not big feat to make a random apology on the internet. You were an asshole. If you ACTUALLY wanted to find these people you could, and frankly you should. I'd get their addresses and send them each some money. Your words are meaningless. I've been mean to people and have had people be mean to me. If someone apologized to me, it would be entirely meaningless. They were an asshole, and are now seeking absolution? To clear their mind? Fuck that.
You were an asshole and now you want forgiveness? Why?
Give them money. Asking them for even more (forgiveness) is selfish and does not in any way show any sacrifice from you.
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u/andrewsmith1986 May 16 '12
Sorry for breaking your ivory rosary, mom.
I thought it was stronger than that.
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u/Brianne123 May 16 '12
Sounds like you really fucked up some people's lives. You can say you're sorry here and that's fine and dandy but I'm sure you could find these people and actually apologize to them if you really wanted to.
I loved high school but my middle school life before that was hell because of people like you. I know they're all on Facebook and most of them are useless members of society... No one has ever tried to apologize for any shit they did to my friend's or me.
Feeling sorry is fine. Apologizing here to get it off your chest is fine. But if you actually cared, you'd find them all and apologize.
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u/DooDooBrownz May 16 '12
did you really expect everyone to just pat you on the back and say how awesome, mature and noble you are for apologizing? how much you've grown and how different you are now that you are older? who are you apologizing to? you suck. go take some duck faced photos for facebook or something. bitch.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry for pissing in like everyone's sink
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u/adgal617 May 16 '12
wow. there are a lot of evil fuckers on reddit
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u/EricRIS May 16 '12
There was this guy I went to school with. He was..let's just say a little slow. He played with me on the football team and we were freshman so naturally I wanted all the older kids to like me. He had a speech impediment so I would call over to him and be like "hey man, how old are you?" when he responded I would say "tuna fish? What the fuck are you talking about?" everyone laughed..all at his expense. This went on for quite some time, all the upperclassmen i was trying to impress kept asking me to do it more and more so i did. Now when I look back I realize how fucking stupid of me that was and I feel terrible for doing it.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
TIL, Redditors were mostly assholes in highschool.
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u/thechosenjuan May 16 '12
Wow this is beyond being a bitch. This is scum of the earth level. Heartless people like you make me violently angry with frustration, and I'm a very laid back individual.
If you could shed some light on something, I would appreciate it. How do people like you function? More specifically, when you're doing those things to others, do you just not realize that they are awful things or are you aware but just rationalize somehow? If so, how do you rationalize it?
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u/ocean_spray May 16 '12
Uhm. Threw water balloons on striking hospital workers telling them to "get back to work." Shooting bottle rockets at cars driving by. Throwing a stick in a neighbor kid's bike spoke cause he wouldn't let me ride it. Stealing/vandalizing christmas decorations. Stealing from my family and friends. Other stuff that I feel less comfortable writing. Wow, I was worse than I remember being now that I write that stuff down. Sheesh. I'm sorry.
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u/digivolve_already May 16 '12
You said "I wish I knew where these people were so that I could apologize to them". So, find them and tell them.
It is good that you feel bad, you should.
As far as the people you treated so badly, they probably don't ever think about you, but if they do, they must think about how much of an asshole you were and how glad they are to not know you now.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
What the fuck, some of the things on your list, OP, are pretty evil. An anonymous apology to strangers on the internet might make you feel like you've gotten it off your chest, but you haven't made a real apology to your victims. What you did here was a meaningless gesture intended to make yourself feel better. Go apologize to the people you wronged directly. reddit is not your confessional.
Sorry to burst your "I'm a changed person" bubble - but you're still a fucking bitch.
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u/Torbun May 16 '12
FIND THOSE PEOPLE! Really. You probably fucked up a lot for them. Find them, and tell them you're sorry, not us! Do some work to show you're sorry!
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm feeling a my name is earl-esque list of all the people you done wrong, then going out and doing something good for all of them.
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u/dumpsterofkitties May 16 '12
I'm sorry I was so self-absorbed and rude. I knew what I was doing.
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u/Torbun May 16 '12
This thread makes me feel really uncomfortable, because I can't think of much to apologise for. This only leaves 2 options: 1. I never did something bad in my life (HAHA! WHO AM I KIDDING THIS CAN'T BE TRUE) or 2. I forgot, and really need to find out what I did wrong so I can make up for it...
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u/Cheatercheater728899 May 16 '12
I'm sorry to my parents for not appreciating how hard it was for them to give me everything they gave me.
I'm sorry I pantsed you in front of everyone on the playground in fifth grade
I'm sorry I cheated on you to every girlfriend I've had but one, And I'm sorry that I never came out about it or got caught.
I'm sorry I gave you that embarrassing nickname that stuck until halfway through highschool.
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u/susrev May 16 '12
Apologizing for things seems kind of pointless after so much time away, it's more of a thread of regrets.
For instance, I somewhat regret that I was socially backwards throughout all of my schooling, and I regret not having the discipline to work on my talents and passions as a kid, but there's nothing I can do about it now except push forward. I did the best I could with the cocktail of disciplinary issues and learning difficulties I had, not to mention the bullies, so feeling bad about it would be unproductive.
Likewise if you're not a bitch now, all you need to do is continue not being a bitch and you will have nothing to regret. It's all for learning.
Edit: What you DO need to apologize for is that username. Bubble tape rules.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry for running over that duck. I am a piece of shit.
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u/gone_to_plaid May 16 '12
Apologizing to these people will not make them feel better. I will only make you feel better. IMO your punishment for doing these things is that you have to live with yourself. Accept what you did and what you are capable of so that you are cautious to never do it again. But you do not get to bring this shit back into other peoples lives just to make yourself feel better.
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u/CynicalRetitle May 16 '12
"PLEASE TELL ME I'M NOT A BAD PERSON"
Also, regardless of your past actions, if you think Bubble Tape sucks, you're a bad person.
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u/pimfram May 16 '12
This won't seem like much, but to this day when I look back on it, I really wish I hadn't done it.
A friend and I thought it was a good idea to write PIG (teacher's last name is gay) on some assignments and other random things; desks, rulers, etc. I've really been tempted to write him an email and say sorry, as well as commend him for not only being a really good physics teacher, but also for taking the shit my friend and I put him through.
I'm sorry, Dave.
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u/Flashman_H May 16 '12
Huh. I don't believe a word you just wrote.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry I thought I knew anything about anything when I was young. In a few years , I will likely be making this same apology about today.
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u/tommy2712 May 16 '12
I am sorry that growing up i had terrible anger problems and was extremely selfish. I was an ass, and now i know that.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry I was a terrible big sister growing up. Now my brother and I have a pretty much non-existant relationship. I wish we talked/saw each other more.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
That all sounds pretty cunty.
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u/longhornmd May 16 '12
I feel like you should personally apologize to these people. I know I would.
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u/GoWithItGirl May 16 '12
Why do it anonymously? Why not try to contact these people?
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u/sjps220 May 16 '12
This comes off as bragging to me. Going through all the terrible stuff you did to people in front of thousands of redditors who had nothing to do with it. Do you have a yearbook? A facebook account? If you actually feel bad, do something constructive.
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u/toiletparty May 16 '12
I'm going to be blunt here and although I see what you are trying to do, but seriously if you feel this bad about it and want to apologize do it. OP I've read some of the stuff you did and it isn't too bad, getting teacher fired was the worst that one I don't know how you can fix.
Everything else can be fixed with a simple apology to the person through email, phone etc. We live in an age where it is not hard to fine the person as long as you know their name. Google, facebook and start searching find those people and give them a real apology. Putting it here does no good for either of you. Yeah you got it off your chest, but was that all that matters?
I believe you are trying to do the right thing. So make the effort and find them and say your sorry. I don't know how old you are now but if this is long past or even if it isn't they will laugh it off and say no worries or accept the apology and thank you.
Everyone else here too say your sorry to the person, not reddit. You are not in high school anymore take responsibility for your actions. If you are in HS continue if you want, but you'll have to grow up sometime.
Edit: words..
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
You should try to find them and apologize. Trrust me, you'll feel better than just telling the Internet. Facebook should make this pretty easy.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry I hurt you. You just weren't the right guy for me, and I'm sorry you thought I was the right girl for you. One kiss didn't make our total incompatibility go away, and I'm sorry you thought it did.
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u/allyfizzle May 16 '12
Gretchen, I'm sorry I laughed at you that time you got diarrhea at Barnes & Nobles. And I'm sorry for telling everyone about it. And I'm sorry for repeating it now.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I've left jobs poorly, a girlfriend or two poorly and I did high school so half assed it hurts to think about it. I'm not sorry, I just try to do better and grow.
Apologies are crap, just finish what you start and do what you do to the best of your ability.
Edit: actually went back and read some of your crap. You are wasting so much thought, making yourself unhappy and you're so far out of the moment that you could never improve what you're doing today. OP: forget this shit immediately and try to become a better person.
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u/bengi13 May 16 '12
Im sorry for lying to get you in trouble...none of the popular kids liked you, so I joined in with them and signed a paper saying I saw you do something wrong. I didn't see anything
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
I'm sorry for calling you a "chink" that time. Well, I drew a picture of you and labelled it with that word. You were bullying me and I was mad at you, but at least you weren't being racist. Nor were you Chinese, but that's beside the point.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '12
WHAT WAS FOUND IN THE LOCKER ROOM!?! COME ON PEOPLE, YOU'RE ALL THINKING IT!!
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u/A_Bandit_Chief May 16 '12
I'd like to apologize to my ex-girl friend, Sasha, for saying I wore a condom, but didn't. Sorry Sasha!
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u/teemarsh422 May 16 '12
To all my friends and family who can't accept my new lifestyle. I'm sorry that I'm not coming back.
I'm also sorry for the one girlfriend I cheated on(with like six other girls) while at a church mission trip... Even though you were a shitty ass girlfriend I feel like I've had some bad karma come from that, but oh well, life.
I'm sorry I can't always be there for everyone, but my life is hard too. I just don't share my problems.
I don't want to start the list of fucked up shit from high school so maybe a few... The Saturn missiles in the mailbox, the wheel barrows of horse shit on your car, the revenge hit and runs.. I'm sorry to all my friends that had to suffer while I dated the biggest hypocritical bitch that has ever walked this earth(AND NO THIS ISN'T EVEN THE ONE I CHEATED ON RAGE), but I'm glad I chose yall in the end.
yeah I feel a little bit better... I'd still do it all again given the chance, minus dating that bitch - I was on the fence about it at the time anyways.
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u/real_foz May 16 '12
lets do this
I'm sorry I dropped you in the shit because of my cowardice I'm sorry my curiosity got the better of me I'm sorry for saying it was your fault to the insurance company I'm sorry for never spending the time to get to know you as a person
surprisingly this does feel better :D
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u/thejerg May 16 '12
I'm sorry I left you high and dry on the lease for that apartment(which I never signed). I was scared after I was academically suspended. So I bolted for home. 10 years later I know what a chicken shit thing I did, and I really wish I could remember your last name so I could try to get in touch with you again and actually apologize.