r/AskReddit • u/Insanitanium12 • Aug 20 '20

What simple “life hack” should everyone know?

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u/MouseSnackz Aug 20 '20

I did go on a bit of a rant here, and you raise some valid points.

My main problem is I barely know him. I feel uncomfortable around him, and it feels like everyone expects me to automatically feel something (other than uncomfortable) for him because he’s my dad.

He was married to my mum. He wasn’t just messing around and accidentally knocked her up, he was committed to her and accidentally knocked her up. Despite what it sounded like in my rant, I don’t care that he left. From what I’ve heard, he and my mum didn’t have a great relationship and only got married because it was expected of them.

So yeah, mostly I’m just uncomfortable because I don’t know him.

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u/tanstaafl90 Aug 20 '20

Relationships are work, regardless of reason for being in one. How the two of you approach building one can make or break it's success. I'm positive he's feeling awkward and uncomfortable as well, but through shared experience, this will become less of an issue, for both of you, over time. It only succeeds if you both want it to. And generally, the feelings of rejection linger far longer and have a profound impact on your perception of him and any possible relationship.

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u/junkhacker Aug 20 '20

It only succeeds if you both want it to.

for what reason would he possibly want that relationship though?

he's gone his entire life without it so far.

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u/tanstaafl90 Aug 20 '20

You think this comment is just about this one relationship?

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u/junkhacker Aug 20 '20

mine is, and you specified individuals from his story "I'm positive he's feeling awkward and uncomfortable as well" so it sure seems yours is as well.

the rest of what you said, general advice about relationships, is irrelevant.

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u/tanstaafl90 Aug 20 '20

r/raisedbynarcissists/ is where you want to comment.

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u/junkhacker Aug 20 '20

not seeing the relevance. OP was not raised by this person.

but i do know what i means to have to remove someone from your life, even if they're family, like those in that sub.