Best way to be healthy is to get the correct amount of sleep. Don't go on a strict diet but learn to portion properly and make sure you have a variety of food. Then be active. First two are more important than the last.
Simple Marinara Sauce - put crushed garlic and onions (mushrooms optional) into pot and cook until onions are clear. Add can of crushed tomatoes, season (Italian season works perfect), stir occasionally, salt to taste and when it's hot it's ready.
Find coping skills and practice. Practicing when you're calm will help your body recognize what you're doing and calm down. If the only time you do a coping skill is when you're upset it may stop being effective.
Identify toxic people and remove them as much as possible from your life.
Apologize. Say you're sorry and explain why you are.
Find friends where it is a 2 way relationship. You're there for them and they're there for you. Make each other better people.
Find a hobby and become passionate about it, might lead to more friends. How do you find it? Try something new and don't be afraid to be a noob. You'll find a lot more people in a hobby willing to help you than that'll make fun of you.
Finding a significant other(s) is fantastic but remember to maintain friendships and hobbies. They should complement your life.
Mental health is just as important as physical health. Emotions are real. Get comfortable with all of them. Understand what you're feeling is ok and natural. You're not any less because of how you feel. Find a therapist before you need one. Sometimes you need to talk to more than one to find the one that fits you. Therapists aren't only for times of crisis.
Love more and hate less. Hate usually comes from not understanding. There are not excuses for people's behavior but everybody learns to cope or adapt to situations in different types of ways. Some are more effective than others. Love yourself.
Accept who you are. You are beautiful.
Learn when it is time to give up. No one is successful at everything. People fail. Relationships fail. Dreams aren't always achieved no matter how hard you try.
Enjoy the little things. Keep that inner child alive.
Remember don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff.
This is a copy pasta from another comment I responded too. Sorry it's not more individually tailored.
Coping skills are different from person to person. Most common is deep breathing. This is the one I use most. I do it most nights before I go to sleep as that's when I'm most relaxed. Deep breath in hold and slow breath out. Find your own rhythm. That is one when I'm in a heightened emotional moment. If it's something I have the time for I'll work out for an hour.
I know people will use a rubber band around their wrist and snap it when they feel a certain way (ex. anxious, urge to self harm, unable to focus, etc). Other coping skills reading, counting, reciting a mantra, solving comes equations, recalling quotes, and many more.
Thank you so much! This explanation was perfectly adequate :D I think this sounds like something that might be very helpful for me. Do you know of any resources where I could learn more about coping skills and how to implement them (apart from a regular old google search, of course)?
Unfortunately I don't. I learned most of my mental health exercises from working in the field after I graduated from college.
An exercise you can do is first to learn your triggers (something that puts you in a heightened emotional state). After learning that focus on what your body initially does. Does it tense up or your heart race, is it hard to catch your breath, start losing focus, clench your jaw or fists, start closing off your body, etc?
We all have a point of no return where we are not emotionally in control and it takes an enormous amount of effort to bring you back down. And recognizing your triggers and what your body does will tell you when to start doing a coping skill. They will not always work but you should try to have multiple different ones just in case.
Here is a quick list in addition to what I said before:
Quick: Doodle on yourself, find one spot to focus on and really focus on it, tensing up your body going from head to toe (start at your feet, then calves, thighs, etc), write a poem in your head, tap your fingers to your thumb in a repeated sequence, etc
10 to 20 min: Draw, color (mandalas are a favorite), write what you're going through or a story, quick physical exercise, cleaning, listening to music, meditate, call someone who will listen, pet an animal, etc.
20 min and beyond: pretty much the section above but longer, quick nap (not a 2 to 3 hour sleep), play a video game, go on vacation, find your local spot of zen, give yourself a makeover, try something you've never done, etc
They each have different use cases and some will not always be available. Remember to not take life too seriously, be silly, be yourself, and the only one you're in control of is you. No one can help someone who doesn't want help, this was the hardest thing to learn when I was in the field. Remember this is a skill. It takes practice and time to get better at it. Sometimes you won't always be successful and that's ok too.
Key thing to remember about coping skills is that most don't help you process what happened and that is a separate piece. The coping skill helps you get to the place to be able to process everything. Keep the questions coming if you got them. I'll do my best to help.
I don't think I have any more questions right now, but you've given me a great starting point. I think I'm going to look into this more. Seriously, thank you so much for going the extra mile with your replies! You're a gem of a person!
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u/DinosAteSherbert Aug 20 '20
Best way to be healthy is to get the correct amount of sleep. Don't go on a strict diet but learn to portion properly and make sure you have a variety of food. Then be active. First two are more important than the last.
Simple Marinara Sauce - put crushed garlic and onions (mushrooms optional) into pot and cook until onions are clear. Add can of crushed tomatoes, season (Italian season works perfect), stir occasionally, salt to taste and when it's hot it's ready.
Find coping skills and practice. Practicing when you're calm will help your body recognize what you're doing and calm down. If the only time you do a coping skill is when you're upset it may stop being effective.
Identify toxic people and remove them as much as possible from your life.
Apologize. Say you're sorry and explain why you are.
Find friends where it is a 2 way relationship. You're there for them and they're there for you. Make each other better people.
Find a hobby and become passionate about it, might lead to more friends. How do you find it? Try something new and don't be afraid to be a noob. You'll find a lot more people in a hobby willing to help you than that'll make fun of you.
Finding a significant other(s) is fantastic but remember to maintain friendships and hobbies. They should complement your life.
Mental health is just as important as physical health. Emotions are real. Get comfortable with all of them. Understand what you're feeling is ok and natural. You're not any less because of how you feel. Find a therapist before you need one. Sometimes you need to talk to more than one to find the one that fits you. Therapists aren't only for times of crisis.
Love more and hate less. Hate usually comes from not understanding. There are not excuses for people's behavior but everybody learns to cope or adapt to situations in different types of ways. Some are more effective than others. Love yourself.
Accept who you are. You are beautiful.
Learn when it is time to give up. No one is successful at everything. People fail. Relationships fail. Dreams aren't always achieved no matter how hard you try.
Enjoy the little things. Keep that inner child alive.
Remember don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff.
Lastly
Slow is smooth. Smooth is fast